In a busy world that never seems to stop or slow down it can often make us feel as though we are behind in our lives, we are constantly out looking to achieve that goal that will get us that one step closer to where we want to be.
And so often because of this we either forget to take little breaks or we choose not to have them, convincing ourselves that it makes us weak in some way or stressing ourselves by thinking of how far behind we will be if we take that little break.
But at some point we all have to put down out work\activity\project and pick up a cup of tea with maybe a book or two in order to give our minds a little rest. If you are anything like me then you too find it difficult to justify taking a break, to relax without feeling guilty for it. For the sake of our mental health though, it such an incredibly necessary thing to do.
Last week after experiencing a few very difficult few months where my mental health slipped a little, and after making a tweet and receiving some much needed advice… I made the decision not to give up on my dreams, not to let my mental illness and dark cycles take over again and took a week away from blogging.
Day one, I felt incredibly stupid. Thinking to myself, ‘are you seriously going to take a break in the first year of your blogging days? Are you really that breakable that you can’t handle the responsibility, work and stress that comes with blogging? Are you really that weak?’…
Day one, I found myself in a self-hate thought loop.
Day two, was a little better. I was able to break easily from the self-hate thought loop, however the fact that I was able to break from it made me hopeful that the next day would get better. I still didn’t really want to blog, only wanting to do it because I felt like I HAD to and not because I WANTED to.
Day three, was MUCH easier. The self-hate thought loops came less, I was able to actually enjoy my time away from my laptop and enjoy the present moments.
As the days wore on the less guilty I stated to feel and that was mainly because I realised two things in that week;
- I notice a big improvement in my mental health. I’ve even managed to gain the most weight this week than I have probably ever and although I have mixed feelings on my body changing, it’s made me feel more positive and hopeful.
- Time way gave me time to refocus, re-plan, re-brand (I’ll be doing a post shortly on what I mean about this) and re-approach how I blog. It’s also helped to give me new ideas for new blog posts!
When taking this break I didn’t pick up a book at first, knowing that if I did I would have picked up one of the ones that it’s my TBR pile and I’d probably end up having written up a review on it and posting onto my blog. And so with that in mind I set myself some rules, some boundaries, because the temptation to do something I told myself I wasn’t allowed to. The temptation of carrying on even though it was stressing me beyond even what I realised was ALMOST too much to resist. Don’t get me wrong I have NO self control what so ever and that usually is my biggest flaw but thankfully I have fallen in love with someone who probably has the most self control I’ve ever witness in one person and he helps keep my temptations kept aside so I am able to focus on the bigger picture.
So what did I do to ensure that I would not dive back into blogging?:
- I kept my laptop hidden away inside of two bags and placed in the cupboard (yes I am that bad that I have to resort to such lengths to assure I don’t give into temptation).
- I started focusing a little more on my candles, how I really want them to look, how I want them to appear, the labelling and picking out the names of them. A lot of that got swiped aside as I was also focusing on how to make my blog and go through with becoming a blogger.
- I focused a little more on planning my WIP (Work in progress) and writing more in my notebooks (yes I did mean I had to buy more notebooks, that part actually made me really happy. I’m always happy to have a reason to buy a new notebook or two).
- I took a lot more nature walks with my boyfriend as well as spending a lot more quality time with him (rather than sitting in the same room while I work on my blog and he does his thing).
- I started to read for pleasure again. A year or two ago I had stopped reading, finding myself unable to focus on the story line any longer I just stopped reading. I lost my love for reading for a while. That was until I read Olga Gibbs fantastic page turning book Heavenward and Hallow. But even then with my love of reading returned to me I didn’t look for books that I wanted to read and I limited myself to reading ONLY books that I was going to review. If I wasn’t reviewing it, then I wasn’t reading it.
- Lastly, I’ve started getting back into all the things I used to love when I was younger. (Reading, Writing, writing music, playing the piano, writing my own poems again and tracking my dreams through a dream journal, and so on).
With everything in mind, I’m VERY much aware of how difficult it can be to make the decision to take that break, to let yourself relax and to accept that you can re-grow from your time away.
But when your mental health is suffering, when you find yourself no longer able to enjoy the things you used to, when getting up in the morning feels like a chore again instead of a blessing to be a wake, to be alive and this opportunity to do something new, something different, something fun or exciting. That’s when you need to be able to step back and think to yourself, ‘I need a break,’ and you need to do so without the guilt.
No one should ever feel guilty for looking after themselves, for being able to say stop when they need to. No one should feel guilty for giving your brain that break, your creativity side that much needed rest to refuel.
No one should feel guilty for taking a needed break.
I want to thank everyone who spoke to me, gave me words of encouragement and advice. I could never repay you for your kind words or for helping in stopping me from making probably one of the worst decisions of my life this year.
I came very close to giving up on my dreams and on my blog but with the support from some incredible people and strangely timed WordPress “achievement” that reminded me a year ago on the 10th August 2018 I made a WordPress account and for 2 months even created a free blog site before quickly deleting it due to self-doubt and insecurities.
This year wasn’t about giving up, that was last year, this year is meant be about fighting the fear and fighting for what I want. The biggest fight will always be with myself but I refuse to let that side of me win any longer, I’m ready to live the life I want.
Like my yearly quote says;
If you can’t fight fear, fight scared.
And that’s exactly what I pan to do.
I also want to thank you all so much for sticking by my side and for taking the time to read my post. I hope everyone has a wonderful week a head of them, and don’t let those Monday Blue’s get you!
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I’m so glad that your blogging break helped to boost your mental health and you rediscovered all these things that you used to really enjoy again š
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Thank you so much! Honestly it feels as though I need that breakdown and that break just to come back to the things I used to enjoy before my life was overrun by too many negative things and always thank you for reading my post!ā£ļøš
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It isn’t until you take a break from blogging do you realise how much time and focus it takes up. I find myself getting obsessed with stats and ratings . I’ve just returned after almost a month off and my stats are still there my followers are still there and I feel so refreshed because of it!
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I’m glad to hear you have taken a break when it was needed. I stray away from stats at the moment as I realistically they are going to be lower than I am wanting but I’m not letting things like that get to me anymore. I enjoy blogging even if I am not achieving the goals I am wanting to āŗļø thank you for taking the time to read š
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Exactly I try not to look at stats and comparing myself to other bloggers. No problem I really enjoyed reading this xx
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This was such a lovely post!! Im glad you took a much needed break, we all need the time to refuel at some point!! xx
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This is a terrific post! I sometimes wonder if our goal-oriented trends are always best for our mental health. It certainly is sometimes as it engages the brain in positive ways. But I sometimes wonder if the constant loop of goal achievement replaced my more goals is the only way to live one’s life. I think your recognition of needing a break and documenting your reactions day by day was very cool. Letting go and allowing yourself to decompress is an awesome life lesson. Good for you for listening to what you needed and giving it a try, even though it may have been uncomfortable at first.
Roger
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Thank you so much, Roger! I hoenstly wasn’t aware of much our minds as well as our bodies need a much needed break from things until I took notice at how I was feeling during my time away from blogging but it feels as thought my brain is breathing is clean, minty cool air š
I’m hoping through this post that it will convince others to just take that break! The world won’t stop but your stress will dwindle making it easier to copy with a world that never stops š
As always I love and appreciate your comments! Thank you so much for taking the time to read my little post āŗļø
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I’m glad you managed to take a successful break, and that’s so amazing about the weight gain. I’ve not been massively present on Twitter due to my migraines so completely missed how you were feeling, but I’m always here to chat if you need it! Breaks can honestly do the world of good and I totally agree that they really allow you to de-stress and refocus again.
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Thank you! I’m actually super proud (as well as scared) at the weight I was able to gain back, especially because I had lost so much againš sometimes i just feel like a yo-yo bouncing up and down the scales. But I’m finding it a little easier to accept gaining my weight back. I have noticed that, I really hope that your migraines leave you soon, I used to suffer terribly with them, now I get them once every blue moon (apart from this week where they have started hitting me again), I know how awful they are. And again thank you! šš
That break away was a much needed breatherš
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Great post on an important topic. You are the priority and it’s always important to take some time and do what’s best for you.
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Thank you for taking the time to read! And you are exactly right, you need to be your first priority in order to be able bring your best to every dayāŗļø
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Taking a break is important to gather ideas.
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It very much is! āŗļø
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It is SO important to take a break when we need it, preferably before you find yourself at risk of burn out! You made the best decision for you, and Iām glad you were able to take that much needed time away.
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Good to have you back. You made the right decision. Iāve blogged basically every day for two years to build the blog as a platform for my writing. It is mentally exhausting so Iām glad you are back to your best now.
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Thank you so much! And what a fantastic blog you run! š
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Welcome back! It sounds like you definitely deserved to take a little time out, hope you feel loads better for it! I relate to the guilt for taking a break, I’ve noticed lately that if I have an evening off from my blog I feel so guilty about it, even if I’ve had plans and a genuine reason. I’m going to make a plan to schedule in a little self care from now on I think š
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Thank you! I honestly hadn’t realised how much it truly needed until I had it to be honest. It’s so hard to get yourself out of thag guilty thought loop but you have nothing to be guilty about! If anything we should be feeling guilty about neglecting our needs like so. I think that’s a terrific idea! ššš Thank you so much for taking the time to read and thank you for all your lovely and kind wordsš
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So glad to hear that you are feeling renewed after your break! I can definitely relate to feeling guilty about taking breaks, because I feel like I have to keep working all the time so I donāt get behind. But youāre right, itās so important to take breaks! This blog post is really helpful because it shows your process of feeling better about taking a break, and shows that even if you feel guilty about it at first, taking a break has so many benefits that far outweigh any negatives!
Congratulations on your 1 year wordpress anniversary! That was the starting point that got you where you are with your blog now, even if you deleted the first one. So itās definitely an achievement to celebrate! šš
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Thank you so much. I honestly didn’t think a break would bring so many benefits to me but I feel so much more lighter but more than that, I feel like I can be the best version of myself again. It’s definitely helped me to refocus and defiantly recommended you take that break of ever you feel the need to, don’t listen to that voice that tells you, you can’t. You can and totally should! Thank you so much for all your lovely words and for taking the time to read my postšš
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Thank YOU so much and I will definitely take that break if I feel the need to! I’m so glad you’re feeling able to be the best version of yourself again! Remember to take another break any time you need to!
Hope you’re having a lovely birthday! š
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