March. Mother’s Month

My beautiful mam holding her first daughter 💞

So this isn’t going to be like my other’s posts but it’s just as important as my other posts and since March is the month of mother’s day I felt it fit in perfectly.

So I was originally going to post about my eating disorder today as it’s eating disorder awareness week but instead, I got stuck with a different thought, a different post that I feel should be out on blog before I dive into my story. However I had collaborated with https://wellbeanblog.com/  in sharing a little about my story, so if you would like to check that out, just click here.

So the new topic I want to talk about today is Mothers. Everyone has one, whether you have a good relationship with them or not, whether you are a fortune to have yours still around or not, we all have or had a mother.

There’s is no one in the world I love more than my mother, the woman who has carried me in her belly for nine months, cared for me, fed me, bathed and clothed me. She’s always been my best friend whenever I needed one, my shoulder to cry one, my ear to talk to and is forever my protector.

There is nothing like a mother’s love, a mother’s care or a mother’s comforting words after a hard day. They’ve given up time, people and dreams to take care of a little creature that can’t yet understand that it’s alive.

And yet they are still so badly overlooked and taken for granted. We never take into account the emotional roller coaster we are forever keeping them on, or the constant worrying they do for our well being and safety no matter what age we are. A mothers love knows no bounds.

Now I’m not a mother myself and so I couldn’t tell what it feels like to have someone else’s little world on your shoulders, a little being that relied on you to be all knowing and indestructible and loving. I couldn’t tell you what it felt like to spend my days/nights constantly wondering if I was a good mother or not or wondering if I was making the right decision for someone else’s life. I’d say I’m personally pretty relieved not to have that hardship and emotional toll weighing on my shoulders.

As children, we never notice the pain and struggles our mothers go through and as adults, we slowly start to notice, we start to experience life and start to understand some of the things we couldn’t when younger.

I couldn’t thank my mother enough for the things she has done and the things she has gone through, I couldn’t thank her enough for loving me and my siblings with all her heart while at times hers was breaking.

We always say and do things in moments of anger that we often regret. But no one receives the worst end of that anger at times than our mothers, the women who are constantly our support system, ear to talk to, the person we find ourselves always going back to in moments of need or desperation. The one person we know we can go to no matter what we’ve done or what we’ve said. I think that is maybe why we take our anger out a little harsher on them than we would with anyone else because we’re aware that other people would leave and never come back but a mother? She’ll take the hurt, the pain, the horrible words and still give you that very much needed hug after a really bad day as though things had never been said. The love really does know no bounds.

Instead of celebrating your mother for Mother’s Day, Why not celebrate her for mother’s Month? I honestly don’t feel as though dedicating one day out of the WHOLE year is enough of thanks to the women who have carried us in their bellies and given us the lives we have now, giving us the opportunity to do and be whoever we want to be.

I think March is a great month to celebrate your mothers as it’s springtime on the 20th, a time where all the animals start to give birth to their little ones and all the flowers and colours are making a show. The whole month is about life and growth!

You don’t have to do or buy her anything big or expensive, buy her, her favourite chocolate, some flowers, a nice cushion, tell her you love her, write her a poem, go and visit her! See if there are any chores, any shopping, any cleaning that needs to be done. Mothers notice the little things and love them those most because it’s usually the little things that get in the from them being able to have “me time” or the little things that they are looking out for. Take her out make a point of dedicating a day for just you and her to do something she likes.

So guys go treat your mother’s this month and show them the love they deserve because you won’t get another mother. I’d love to know you’re thoughts on turning March into a month of celebration for mothers everywhere and don’t forget to like and share with your friends.

Our first Valentines together.

14th February… Valentines Day, the one day where couples either get extra romantic or spend the entire day angry/ disappointed with their significant other.

When you are in a relationship for a long period of time the romance can sometimes…dwindle.
What was once an exciting occasion becomes something dreaded or too often repeated, you either spend too much time worrying about what to do for the day or what to buy and not enough time actually enjoying each other.

I personally have never seen the big deal with Valentines. It’s nice to get a card, a gift, chocolate, flowers but to only receive that kind of treatment once a year? It seems kind of silly. I think it takes away that special feeling in your chest you get when your significant other buys you something just because they wanted too, or saw it and thought of you or knew a box of chocolate or some flowers would put a smile on your face.

One of My Favourite Cards 

So in order to take a step back from unrealistic expectations and the gruelling task of trying to keep those expectations and I wanted to share mine and Dan’s first Valentines together.

Thursday 14th February 2013, I had spent the whole morning getting ready and preparing myself for seeing my boyfriend. I had picked out my outfit for the day, had done my makeup, my hair and made sure all his Valentines gifts and card was where I wanted them.

It wasn’t long before I heard a small yet firm knock on my front door, I let my mum answer it as I double check myself in the mirror before retrieving his gifts and making my way downstairs to greet my boyfriend.

We spent a little time in mine, opening gifts and cards, thanking each other and then relaxing with my family for a little while before we headed out. Now this was our first Valentines day, the relationship aspect as well as the relationship itself was a whole new concept to me and so we didn’t have anything big planned or anything planned alone.

(I ate the chocolates)

We had planned to have an unofficial couple date. Now as I said my relationship was VERY new at the time and it was at the stage where I was forcing my best friend to third-wheel (or fourth-wheel when she brought her boyfriend?) as much as possible. And so when Valentines was creeping around the corner we had planned to tell our boyfriends that we wanted to go to her boyfriend’s house and have a kind of double date.

Once we got there we all instantly started drinking and talking. It was so relaxing and just what I needed to help get rid of my nerves. We spent the rest of the day drinking and talking to our friends about the future, the past and everything in between.

Everything was going well, we were laughing, joking, talking and at times singing along to the music we had on, it was great. Until we ran out of drinks… We had gotten down to our last cans, we were all still feeling the good vibes/buzz that we’d (and the drink) brought out in each other when we then all started to get really hungry but there wasn’t really anything in eat.

It was 12am at night, we were all drunk off alcohol and each other’s company, I was sat on the couch cuddling with Dan when my friend suggested we go to the shops for more drinks and food and we were lucky enough to be a 20-minute walking distance from a 24-hour Tesco.

With drinks in our belly’s and food on our mind, me and Dan held hands as we made our way out and started on our adventure to the shop. We all probably looked like wobbling, idiots but we were wobbly idiots happy and in love.

I honestly couldn’t tell you how long it actually took us all to make it safely to the shops but I do remember me and my friends laughing and joking about how good life was when we were young enough to play on those little children-toy-rides that some shopping centres/ big shopping areas have. That then prompted our boyfriends to try and fit themselves into one of those said children-toy-rides. (If you know what they are called, please do put it down in the comments for me!).

The only Picture I have from that night (Mine is the one with too much hair on his head, on the left 😛 )

We stood there for a good ten minutes laughing at them and taking pictures (the only pictures we took of that night) before finally making our way into the shop. I can’t say how long we were in the shop either but I do believe we were in there longer than we planned and I hang my head every time I think about any of the late night staff hearing/ bearing witness to our drunken states. I don’t really remember what we bought other than a big bag of curly fries (I picked those). After another wobbly walk back to our friend’s house we instantly started cooking and then talking.

I remember the night just being so relaxing, no pressure, no expectations, no stress. It was all good fun that left us all with some good memories in the end. It wasn’t long after having our food that we all decided to call it a night.

Me and Dan we were to sleep on a long but narrow couch and although there was no room on it and the room itself was cold, being cuddled next to Dan I couldn’t help but think the night was still perfect and there wasn’t one thing I wanted to change.

I woke up the next morning, incredibly hungover but I honestly couldn’t have been happier as I left my friend’s house hand in hand with my boyfriend.

I guess what I want everyone to take from this is that Valentines isn’t a big deal, love isn’t a big massive gesture you need to show the world or brag about. Sure now and again it’s nice, but how nice is it really when you have spent so much time stressing? Sometimes even arguing?

If you love your partner don’t wait till one stressful day to show the length of your love, its all about the little daily gestures. The forehead kisses when you get home, the goodnight’s before going to bed, the I love you’s at random moments or before leaving, the little messages you send one another, handing hold and well I’m sure you’re all getting my point by now, don’t stress over one day. Enjoy your whole lives together and treasure the moments, good and bad.

Glad to be out of January? You are not alone!

I won’t lie, I got a rough start to the new year and I’ve pretty much sworn off drinking forever and coming from someone who probably drinks 3 times throughout the entire year… that pretty much means never ever again. Although I have been known to change my mind at times.

Although I wouldn’t really say that January was a total loss. I had two really great weeks where the mood was positive and the energy high. My workouts were going amazing and yoga has become my home therapy.

But more than the good vibes that were going around during those two weeks I had also accomplished a few personal goals of mine that have made me rather proud of myself.

But for me, two good weeks do not make up for the beginning of the year and the rest of the month being so terribly… chaotic. And with that being said I am so glad to finally have seen the light of February!

Personally, for me, February is one of three of my toughest months to get through and I usually find myself spending most of my time dreading the moment February comes around the corner but after last year I have made it my personal mission to change all the routinely bad things that go wrong in my life and find a way to make it positive.

This February I have decided to change what it means to me, I have decided to not let the bad things overrule a month that could hold a lot of potential for new opportunities that I usually miss out on due to self-pity and wallowing over things that can’t be changed.

                    A week or two before I was due to release my blog!

The first step to adding something positive into February was to finish setting my blog up and then releasing it out into the world. I originally planned on doing this a year ago but sometimes life has a funny way of ruining your plans and so I had to hold it off for a year.


The second thing was to start my yoga back up. Ever since things started going bad in January I strayed away from yoga, but now I’ve committed myself to doing “yoga therapy” at least once a day. I have to say that it has really helped a lot, it has helped me to take a step back and centre myself. Not to mention the physical benefits of it. I’ve created muscle I never knew I had, become more flexible than I thought possible and my back pain & leg pains that I’ve suffered with since I was really young is almost none existent!

The third thing I’ve done to help add a little positivity into my February happened by chance. I received a message from my mam telling me that my favourite stall had come back to the shopping centre but she wasn’t sure if the man doing it was still selling the incense sticks that I got really obsessed with three years ago. Also, Iceland started selling unicorn nuggets… so of course I bought some! Since my younger sister shares my love the mythical creatures we both ate the unicorns together (after taking pictures).

The same day I went to that shopping centre to have a little look and instantly spotted my favourite incense sticks, without hesitation I pick them up ready to purchase them but then stopped in my tracks. I wanted to get myself another one but with a different scent to it and so I stood there for another ten-to-fifteen minutes smelling and trying to decide which one I was going to pick next. I ended up deciding on ‘Mermaid Love’ which instantly reminded me of those small colourful sweets, FIZZERS and couldn’t resist buying them along with my ‘Unicorn Grace.’

Number four was when I bought a new notebook along with a new journal for myself. I can’t speak for everyone but I am simply obsessed with notebooks! I’ve loved writing ever since I was a little girl and I can never have too many places to jot down my thoughts, ideas, feelings, novels plans / (attempts) and so much more, there really isn’t anything I don’t or haven’t written about. If I love it, if it interests me or my family/friends/readers then I’m writing about!

The fifth to help me on my journey to a better February was to engage with more people, to put myself out there a little more and connect with other bloggers/authors. It’s really amazing what talking to other people can do to help the creativity to flow through you. 

Doing this was so incredibly hard for me, due to me extreme and sever anxiety and you are probably wondering how someone like me was able to do such thing. Well it’s pretty simple, I turned to social media, I created accounts for my blog and reached out to other like –minded people who then introduced me to other lovely people with different opinions, goals and hobbies. Some of the social sites I  used to achieve this is- INSTAGRAM \ TWITTER \ PINTEREST

We are almost half way through February and I plan to continue this journey of better days and better months. I feel the more you try to implement positivity into your life the more you start to notice all the positive things in life that you tend to miss during the bad moments.

I have also decided to buy myself a notebook, one I will use to dedicate to all the positive changes I want to make this year, as well as the goals I want to achieve.
I’ve also started writing novels again and I’m currently working on one that I have plans to publish once finished (I’m super duper excited for that). I want to get back into my photography and I’ve started the reading challenge on GoodReads that I’m really excited about. I’ve been a little out of touch with my reading & this has already motivated me to get back into. On top of that, I plan on taking more nature walks with my partner & enjoying all the little moment life has to offer. My notebook collection is only going to go up and I’m determined to stick to my new healthy lifestyle.

Baking, Candle making and therapy yoga is something I am going to be doing with my younger sisters and posting about our progress! I’m also going to be attempting a lot of fun DIY things with my younger brother and I’ll be posting our progress/results on that too. For the first time in a long time, it seems February has something to offer other than pain and bad memories.

I hope this has inspired some of you to go out there and make your month a better month or at least helped some with ideas on how to add some positive things/ changes into your life. My main advice for adding positive changes into your life is to do what makes you happy, what makes your heart feel light and what puts a smile on your face.

Thank you all so much for taking time out of your day/night to give this post a read and I’d appreciate it so much if you could give this post a like or share. If you have any advice of your own you’d like to share, please feel free comment. I’d love to hear your thoughts!