Starting this week on a positive note

So last week was ‘Mental Health Awareness Week’ which motivated me into posting a little more on mental health in the hopes and help of spreading awareness, leading me into thinking a lot more about my own mental health which hasn’t been the best recently and the more I posted about my past struggles and recent it’s brought to light just how much I’ve actually been ignoring my own mental health in the hopes that it would just… disappear I guess.

This week I’m taking a new approach to everything, I haven’t worked EVERYTHING out just yet but I know I will eventually. I don’t want to feel like an impostor posting all this positivity that I’m personally not feeling myself.

I want to start feeling that little glimmer of positive energy that I had when first starting my blog up a few months ago, and to do that I’ve listed a few positive things I want to do throughout the day, everyday of the week to try and ensure a positive week, which will hopefully lead to a better month and in turn a great year.

So what steps am I taking to ensure I have a positive start to my week?


Start my day off with a positive/motivational quote.

Now this may seem silly to some but reading positive/motivational messages can be really good for you, you can feed off of that positive vibe that person had when creating that quote.

I personally love quotes and I always have. I remember when I was 14 and I covered my whole bedroom walls with all different coloured/shaped post-it-notes that had all kind of quotes that I had written/drawn onto them because my mum had forbid me to write on my walls.

Anyone can own a quote, anyone can think up a quote, you don’t have to be famous or a “really big deal” to have your own quote.You see quotes (especially inspirational quotes) EVERYWHERE. Schools, collages, hospitals, your local doctors, shops, on coffee shop sandwich boards and the main source is online; Tumblr, Pinterest, Facebook, Instagram, you can even see people’s favourite quotes on Goodreads.

You see quotes (especially inspirational quotes) EVERYWHERE. Schools, collages, hospitals, your local doctors, shops, on coffee shop sandwich boards and the main source is online; Tumblr, Pinterest, Facebook, Instagram, you can even see people’s favourite quotes on Goodreads. Quotes are everywhere and they are coaching us from the sidelines of our lives with little pep talks from labels on soap dispensers and tea towels and so on it goes.

With all that in mind I have been thinking about creating and printing out my own positive/motivational quotes when I start printing out ********** (sorry guys I’m keeping it a secret until all is sorted).

Drink hot chocolate or a calming tea in the morning.

I’ve done a rather good job at cutting coffee out of my life this year (though there have been a few times I’ve ‘fallen off the wagon’ and may have caved into a few coffee’s here and there). But I want to continue on cutting out as much caffeine in my life as possible in the hopes that it will help me control my anxiety some day.

I have one of those mums whose every solution to every problems has always been, “Have a cup of tea.”

Feeling sick? Have a cup of tea.

Having friend problems? Have a cup of tea.

Feeling upset? Have a cup of tea.

Just broke your leg? Have a cup of tea…

And well I guess you see my point. Tea is the solution!

If that doesn’t convince maybe some of these tea benefits will?

  • Tea contains antioxidants. Teas of all varieties contain high levels of antioxidants polyphenol that can help keep your body healthier.
  • Tea has less caffeine than coffee. While there are some potential health benefits to consuming moderate amounts of caffeine, drinking loads of it is hard on your hear, other organs and really bad for those who suffer anxiety.
  • Tea can create a calmer but more alert state of mind, helping you relax and concentrate more fully on tasks.
  • Tea eases irritability, headaches, nervous tension and in some cases insomnia.
  • Tea can also cause a temporary increase in short term memory. Not feeling your best today but need to be on the ball? Try drinking some tea! The caffeine it does contain may give you the boost you need to improve your memory, at least for a few hours.

I could list so many more but thought I would try and keep it short as I have more to talk about and share with you.

Morning Yoga

This year I have been working really hard at my yoga but this month I haven’t done as well and I’ve not stuck to it as much as I had at the beginning. I want to change that and start doing my yoga every morning 7am or 8am sharp!

Thinking about starting yoga? Here are some yoga health benefits;

  • Yoga can increase your flexibility
  • It can increase your muscle strength and tone
  • It can improve respiration, energy and vitality
  • It protects your spin
  • And increase your blood flow
  • Yoga can increase your self-esteem and gives you peace of mind
  • It also perfects your posture

There are so many benefits to yoga that I can talk bout if for days and days! Which is why I’ll cut it short here and save the rest for yoga post.

Go for a nature walk

If there’s one thing I love, it’s talking a nice and relaxing stroll with my significant other away from busy traffic and chattering people, where nature still has claim on its land.

My boyfriends ‘go to’ solution for when I am down is to usually take us on what I like to call our little ‘adventures’ where we would walk to the most isolated place we could walk to and enjoy the wonders that nature has to offer. No sound of people, of technology or cars. Just the grassy ground, the quiet air, and singing birds flying by. More often than not taking our little adventure usually works and I find my self flying with the feeling of happiness and love.

Something about being out in the fresh air with my love by my side and no sound or sight of anyone else eases my mind instantly and I always feel myself more relaxed, laying and smiling a lot more. I’ve always been an outdoorsy girl, even when I was younger.

Taking a walk in nature once every day is also going to help push me out of my comfort zone and help me comfortable my anxiety in hopefully a calmer and more comfortable environment for myself. It’s going to be a big push for me but something I feel I need to do, something I realised last week that I’ve might have been ready to do all along.

And, Lastly – READ FOR MY OWN PLEASURE

Me and Toby (Photo credit: My boyfriend)

Reading is something I love to do and do every day but since starting my blog I have stopped reading books simply for my own pleasure and have only been reading books for book reviews and as much as I love and enjoy doing this, I do miss reading books just for myself and so I want to start doing that again this week.

I know some days are going to go by great and others are going to be terrible but it’s all part of life. You have to take the good with the bad and the bad with the good. The bad helps remind us what the good in our lives actually is, it helps keeps us focused on our goal, to live our life as happy and care free as possible.

I hope you have enjoyed to days post and I hope this helps motivate you into ensuring yourself in having a good.

Don’t forget, Mental Health Awareness maybe over and the month is soon coming to an end my dms/messages and email: littletinkable@gmail.com are always open to anyone seeking confidential and non judgemental help/advice.

I also hope this post can help get you in a positive mood this Monday morning. Remember, You can face whatever battle you are facing just take it one day at a time, have a lovely week!

Books saved my life

“She reads books as one would breath air, to fill up and life.”

Today I thought I would share with everyone the real truth behind my love for reading. Now I know I have told the story a few times to people on how I became so obsessed with reading after all I used to write and read my own stories when I was child, however, I hardly ever picked up a book written by another person.

But on a particularity boring day, the sun was shining, the warm weather had kicked in and so too had the start of my extreme anxiety and the start of depression. I couldn’t bring myself to leave the house that day, my step dad had decided that football would be an amazing thing to watch that day and so I ventured upstairs into my mum room (I used to nap my mums room because I always felt safer there) but I wasn’t able to go to sleep. I wasn’t able to shut out the world around me and so picked up the first book my hand touched. Which just so happened to be ‘Twilight’ by Stephenie Meyer.

I had found a new love for books that day, I was unable to place it down and ended up taking it to my room where I continued to read it through out the night with no sleep. Once that was finished I instantly picked up the next and the next and the next.

I was devastated when I finished reading all of the Twilight books. What was I going to read now? That was the first book that had ever sucked me in and made forget the world I was in and to feel as though I was in the world of someone else.

With that thought in mind I ventured back to my mums room to take a look at all the other books my mum had laying around. My mother is one of the biggest book lovers I have ever known, loved reading from an early age as a child her favourite books to read where the Grimm Tales by Jacob Grimm books. I’ve recently bought her an old book by Jacob Grimm for mothers day that I really hope she enjoys.

The next book I picked up was The Vampire Diaries Volume 1; Awakening & The struggle – book 1-2 by L. J. Smith which I had just gotten overly obsessed with. I never wanted to put the book down for even a second of my time! It was after reading these books my love for reading truly came into play and I bought book after book.

At this point in my life I had start high school and was entering probably my 5th month of being there, already started the process of distancing myself away from people, I stopped hanging out with my friends and when I did I never had anything to say or add to our conversations. It was as though I no longer cared for the social game, I didn’t care if the pretty girls like me and thought I was cool, I no longer cared if I had any of the boys attention, I no longer cared for my work or the grades that I had spent all my life working hard to get better at. I just didn’t care anymore. Life with and around humans just didn’t seem like something I could carry on doing any more. I didn’t feel human… I still don’t at times.

I tried, I tried to keep in the conversation with my friends, I tried to engage in petty talk and breaking up arguments between my girlfriends, I tried to show interest in my school crush and I really did try caring about the mark the teachers were handing back to me but everything had started to feel…. not pointless but….Insane.

It honestly seemed insane to me that we were forced to do things we didn’t want to just because we were born into this society, because the people in power have told us this is best and this is what must be done. I noticed more the older I got the less people cared for you and your well being, teachers only start caring about the marks and numbers the school is making, kids stop dreaming about becoming a singers and wrestlers and start thinking about child-care or building… I watched kids go from dreams to piratical thinking and it killed any and every magic I thought was left in the world.

I believed all magic was gone by this point. I was locking myself away, I didn’t want to interact with anyone friend, family or stranger. There were a few moments of self-harm (luckily it was all shallow and not at all something that would leave any scars), there were so many moments that I just slept away because I was so sick of being awake, of being alive and there were countless of nights/days where I thought about suicide, where I thought about all the pros to be going gone, to not being here anymore… but there was always a major con that kept me here.

My family. Who’d help look after them, who would be there for them? Who would drop everything at drop of a hat to go running to try and save the day? My mother and siblings me the absolute world to me, they’re the only people in the world that understand my crazy & weird and love me unconditionally for it anyway. I couldn’t put them through something like that, I could do that and leave them thinking there was something they could have done, I didn’t want them living with the guilt that there was something that could have been done.

But even that thought was barely keeping me on. It wasn’t until I opened up that first book by Stepheine Meyer that magic was restored back into my life, it was as if a switch had been touched and a light had come on. All the fairy-tales that become Grimm’s Tales for me became the magical, soft and vibrant fairy tales they once used to be to me.

Books have restored my love for life, its given me a reason to go on, it’s given me something to escape to when reality gets to hard and scary. The creative imagination and other worldly views created by amazing people is what’s inspired me to become a writer of my own, to become an aspiring author who will one day have her book out on shelves in shops and in photos on Instagram from those who have read/bought my creation.

If you don’t read, if you’re kids don’t read then I beg you give it try! Find them a book they will like or do what my mum taught me to do and teach your kids to write their own little stories they can read. Books saved my life in the same way music saves others. It’s restored my faith in magic and has given me a goal to focusing my energy on.

You can’t buy happiness but you can buy books, and that’s kind of the same thing…

This is one quote i have forever and always loved because it’s true, for me anyway. happiness can’t be bought but I find a little bit of happiness in every book i open, in ever page i turn and in ever new world I enter.