Have you ever wished to live in a world where people showed more compassion for one another? A world where we see the strong struggling, the weak, the fragile, scared…the slightly broken and instead of labelling them, instead of mocking them, instead of having a part in their self hatred by making them feel less important or useless…everyone instead, helped them. Made them feel good, worthy and important.
What if we lived in a world where all we did was help one another? Were we don’t let our jealously and insecurities take over in the form of a spiteful comment or hate stare. One where instead we were simply…kind to each other.
Nation Random acts of kindness day is a day dedicated to those believers, to those dreamers who dream of a kinder world or kinder people in a world that can, at times, be cruel to those who inhabit it.
Celebrated on 17th February every year, National ‘Random acts of kindness Day’ has grown in mass popularity every passing year.
Random acts of kindness day is celebrated nationwide by groups, organisations and individuals. This is done in the hopes of encouraging other people to do these random acts of kindness.
This day is a day Favorited by many – myself included – as people everywhere are enjoying doing these little random acts of kindness.
Reasons you should get involved.
So, you might be sat there thinking to yourself, why should you care about today? Why should you take part in Random Acts Of Kindness Day? Well, I decided to take it upon myself to create a little list, listing all the reasons why I believe EVERYONE should get take part.
I could argue all day and make a 10-hour bullet-point presentation on why I believe everyone should not only take part into today but always carry this day with you through rest of this decade by giving out random act of kindness every day or week or month.
More than anything…you just have to be a nice person wanting and willing to do nice things. That’s what Random Act of Kindness Day is, it’s to remind you to be kind and show kindness! Those are who you’ll find celebrating and taking part in Random Act of Kindness Day.
But don’t just hold your random acts of kindness for only one day, do this every day, once a week, once a month! It doesn’t matter, just try to fit some acts of kindness into your life, and you never know, maybe someone will randomly repay you the favour through one of their random acts of kindness.
Today marks ‘Get A Different Name Day’ and for those who are only hearing about it now, have no fear! I will explain briefly what exactly ‘Get A Different Name Day’ is and why I am taking part/spending the day to celebrate this day.
Have you ever thought about what life would be like if your parents named you by another name? What if they chose that first name they were thinking of? What if they chose the family name? what if?…
I, personally have never liked the sound of my own name, when growing up it never did me any favours. I remember spending a good year or two stuck doing P.E with the boys because my name had been mistakenly placed in the boys register instead of the girls one – during one of many school moves – and for some reason they refused to change me over (not that it really mattered as I only ever brought in my P.E kit for badminton – it was the only thing I enjoyed and I was really good at it).
I’ve just always seen my name as too… manly? or something… it didn’t help any that my mum got my name from a baby boy’s book. She wanted a boy…she didn’t get a boy but decided to stick with the name anyway.
I have always begged my mum to change my name or to allow me to change my name but I’ve always been refused, as I got older the simple fact that I know how hurt my mum would be if I got my name changed is the only thing that has prevented me from permanently and officially changing my name. And even then I have to wrestle with myself not to get it changed.
So what exactly is Get a Different Name Day?
Get a Different Name Day is one of those bizarre informal/unofficial holidays that seem to have grown in numbers since the internet became such a world wide obsession.
Get a different name day falls on 13th February of every year. This unofficial holiday is copyrighted and was created by Ruth & Tom Roy, the founders of WellCat/com. Who took pity on the millions of us who for whatever reason hate their names.
Our name is not ever something we get to choose or have a say in, it is usually something that is bestowed upon us before or not long after our birth. It’s something that our parents decide for us.
There are a lot of people out there who are content and even like their name but there are a few (such as myself) who aren’t as fortunate to fall in love with their name or have one that fits who they are and their personality and some just have names that are too long or too hard to pronounce and others are just displeased with their names for no particular reason.
If you are someone who does’t like their birth name then Get A Different Name Day’ as an opportunity to change your name to whatever you wish. You don’t have to go out and legally change your name. You could just as simply inform your friends and family about your new name and that you expect them to address you by said new name.
It can be your middle name, a nickname or a completely new name instead of your birth name.
I’m not quite sure how, but I made it to a year of blogging!
Today marks my one year Blogiversary and I couldn’t be more proud of myself for sticking with it and making it to my first year of blogging.
My blog wouldn’t be a year old today if it wasn’t for my readers, supporters and followers. Starting a blog hasn’t been easy, and there were moments where I wanted to give in and delete my blog but with the encouragement and support from friends, family, my readers/followers and other amazing bloggers I toughed it out and stuck with it.
And it feels so incredible to be able to say that my blog is now a year old!
Despite the bad start to the year I did manage to find a few good moments through all the bad and even got out a bit to take a few photos. I’ve taken a LOT of photos of the moon already this year as well as of my cats that you can find over on my facebook pages:
Tinkablee Animal Kingdom
I have a lot planned this year and for the following ones a head so I am going to be slightly distance from social media for a little bit however I’ll still be engaging and my messages are still open to those who need it.
I couldn’t thank you all enough for sticking with me and reading through my posts and I hope that you enjoy or find help through my future posts.
It’s so insane to think that we can now close the book on one decade and say goodbye to yet another year so we can start anew for the following decade ahead of us and the years that follow. I never thought I’d make it this far and honestly I’m in shock and proud of myself that I’ve reached this far. I’m proud of my family and everything they have survived this decade and in awe of their ability to pick themselves back up and keep going.
2019 for me has been one of my most peaceful years (mentally…) that I’ve had in far too long a time. Don’t get me wrong it’s still be crazy and I’ve still had a lot of really bad moments but for the first time in my life I was able to focus on the good moments too, enough that the bad hasn’t overridden the good.
If I were to comment on this decade, I would tell you it’s been one of the most insane, crazy, happy, intense, heart-breaking, nerve-wrecking and life changing decade I hope to ever experience.
This year on February 4th 2019 I start this blog! After a year of second guessing and going back on myself I finally went through with what I wanted to do and set out to “write my dreams” instead of letting my mental illnesses win and overrule my life. And it all started with this blog.
Since blogging I’ve been opened to so many amazing opportunities that had been closed off to me before. I’ve gotten to speak to some incredible authors and have come across some amazing book series (one of which helped bring me out of my year long reading slump: Heavenward by Olga Gibbs) and my review you can read here on my blog!
I can’t wait to see what opportunities are brought to me in 2020!
2019 blogging has also helped me with my own mental state, it’s helped me to understand a some of my mental illnesses and open my eyes to things I never even thought about when thinking about my mental illness. It’s also helped me to learn and understand about other’s and all the other different types of mental illnesses there are out there.
It’s been a great way to track and log my progress and although I’ve not done as much of that as I had planned last year, this year, I’m hoping to change that and open up more through my blog.
I’ve learnt new things about myself this year that I don’t think I would have ever realised or noticed before without starting this blog, It’s helped in my confidence and its made me even more motivated to write my novel, to go out there and become a psychologist and to have my blog running steadily through that time. I’m more motivated now than ever to go after what I want no matter what’s standing in my way, I know my worth and value and nothing and nobody is going to stop me for achieving the future I want for myself.
I even went on a few adventures with my love and little Toby (one of which I think I’ve written about on my blog) and even had Bella and Brad join a few (Bella is one of Toby’s best friends!). On one of my adventures with Dan we came across a really beautiful butterfly that even kept still long enough for me to snap a few picture of it! It was such a relaxing and wonderful day of walking about in nature and away from people.
2019 wasn’t just a great year for the start of my blogging life, it also became a great year for my health. I became a year free of smoking, I had gotten into my yoga practice a lot more, started a few new workouts and I had even managed to start eating more and gained weight for the first time in a years. Overall this year I have felt the healthiest I have in far too long.
My mental health has also improved a little in 2019, I noticed I’ve had less break-down, less blow outs, I’ve managed to find a new coping method that helps me to manage my emotions a little better. They still get the better of me and I’ve not gotten complete control over them, but now I FINALLY have a way to gain at least a little control which is a big step for me.
2019 brought me inner peace.
2019 I learnt to let go of a lot of my negative emotions and thinking. I finally feel a peaceful in myself that I’ve been trying desperately to obtain for what seems like my whole life, I’m not feeling that constant war within myself that I’m usually battling with on a daily basis, I haven’t managed to rid myself of it completely but the feeling is there less now. Because of this a lot of my personal relationships have gotten better and I wouldn’t change that fact for the world.
unfortunately as usual with me I’ve ‘fallen off the wagon’ as the saying has goes and I’ve gotten myself stuck into a few old bad habits again, I’ve stopped eating and lost the weight I gained and due to my not eating I’ve decided to stop all exercising – not wanting to risk anymore weight loss than I’m already experiencing.
A lot happened in 2019:
Loki was born had his first Halloween and Christmas with us.
My sister and mum had big operations and are still recovering incredibly well from them.
I attempted Camp NaNoWriMo2019
My Kitt-Katt became a little senor cat this year
My little sister turn 16!
My little brother turned 13!
I did yoga with my little sister
I took my sisters to a Pusheen event in early celebration of my little sister’s 16th birthday
I was finally able to dye my last little sister’s hair for the first time. (It’s like a right of passage in my house)
I found out that the vets didn’t neuter one of my cats properly and caught him spraying out in the garden (luckily he’s too much of a good boy to do it in the house)
I also found out that my little Bear – who is two now – is Oreo’s son
I still haven’t gotten over how much Gizmo looks like her dad (my kitt-katt)
I met Cloud (My friends new kitten)
Spirit went to a new home and became best friends with his new brother Cloud
Spirit passed away a few months before Christmas
I’ve connected with myself
I’ve dyed my hair purple
Was blonde for a day
Then dyed my hair orange
Worked on myself and actually made progress!
I’ve baked a little in 2019
Spent many late nights working on blog post
Spent many more late nights working on my novel
My mums cat went missing for a week so I spent that week climbing over her garden wall into the wilderness behind calling her, leaving food, tuna, treats, and her cat carry (she’s obsessed with it for some reason) until she finally made her way back home to my mum.
I’ve learnt a lot about myself in 2019
Experienced some extremely frosty mornings but no snow…
And entered the 7th new year with my Dan
Now that we are in 2020 it’s time to give up those bad habits again and focus on my health. I plan on getting back into my yoga practice as well as my work outs and hopefully eating a bit more food on a regular basis.
I also have plans to get out a bit more and to complete another online course for my psychology. My mum got me a new camera for Christmas so I’ll probably be taking a LOT of pictures while testing it out and getting a feel for it (I can’t wait! I’ve already used it a few times for some cat pictures and moon pictures – I a little moon mad :P).
I plan on taking this year a little slower in the hopes that it will help me work through my messy mind and bring to life all the ideas that are cramped inside. I have a lot of hope for this decade, I lot things I’m hoping to see come to pass.
I also have a few book reviews that I was meant to get through in 2019 but either unfortunately forgot about them (it’s what happens if I’m sent them online rather than in physical form – unfortunately its out of sight out of mind with me as my memory is awful – or simply just haven’t been able to get round to them yet but I’m not taking on any more book review until I’ve gotten through and posted the ones that I was hoping to have out before the start of 2020.
Before I leave this post and wish you all a great year and a great start to a new decade I just want to thank everyone who has helped me, supported me and stuck by me through these months. I’ve almost made it to a full year of blogging! And it wouldn’t have happened with out your support and encouragement and there are just a few blogs I want to leave everyone with the option of checking out.
These bloggers are some phenomenal, creative and inspiring people that has helped me through my own journey of blogging, mental wellness and recovery and I know that a lot of my viewers would either love or benefit hugely from checking these bloggers blogs out. –
If you follow me on my Facebook page, twitter or Instagram them I’m sure you are all aware of my love for purple and more so my purple hair.
Purple was the first EVER colour I went when I was finally allowed to dye it and I fell in love with it. I never really had a favourite colour I just used to really like black, red, purple, silver and gold at the time, all equally. But then as my love for the other colours faded into the background, my love for purple never.
I have dyed my hair MANY colours over the last 8 or so years and Also find myself going back to purple. I used to try and fall back on red but I’ve decided that’s my bad luck hair colour and I don’t think I will ever go red ever again.
The last couple of months have been tough on me mentally as I’m trying to adjust to a new body change, while still trying to adjust to this new, healthier lifestyle I’ve set for myself and decided a change in colour was needed before I dyed my hair a different purple.
I’ve pretty much have been every colour other than Orange, Yellow and grey/silver and since we are in Autumn I thought I would throw out my fears of what I would look like with orange hair and finally dyed my hair orange!
I won’t lie, I had WAYYYY more confidence when I dyed my hair electric green back when I was in collage than I did when I dyed my hair orange. But the results? I’m pleasantly surprised! I actually really love it and I think I’m going to stay orange for a while (and not just because my hair needs a major break/time to heal).
As nervous as I was, I’m now happy to say, “Goodbye, purple!”
I’m feeling very Autumnal now with my orange hair.
Do you have dyed hair? Or maybe want to dye your hair? Comment below as I’d love to know!
Taking a step back from blogging can be hard, it can be even harder to determine when you are meant to take that little break from blogging. But it can also be even harder to determine when to come back.
A couple of weeks ago, I did just that. I took my first break from blogging since I started it this year in February.
At first it killed me (maybe a little bit dramatic) but It did make me feel like a failure, like I wasn’t ready to deal with anything. Not even something that I wanted to do.
But the feelings didn’t last and the longer I took from blogging, the more I saw myself and my mental health improve. – you can read more about it here in my post called: Taking that un-guilty break from blogging.
Deciding to take that break wasn’t easy, I ran through a lot of emotions, put my loved ones through a lot of emotions too as well but I won’t take any of it back as I noticed and started believing in the benefits of taking a little break away from things.
But when deciding to take a break, how do we know its the right time to come back out of hiding and crawl back out from that rock we hide ourselves in while hiding from our own stress and responsibilities. How do you know when you are ready to see that light of day again?
In the end I decided that a week away is what I needed, that a week would help me…and it did. But how did I come to the conclusion that a week is exactly what I needed, how did I know that after a week I’d be ready to take on the world again?
Well the truth is, I didn’t know. In my head, a week seemed like a reasonable enough time to get my head back on my shoulders. A week seemed like a good amount of time to take off and forget there’s even a world around me.
Before taking the break I had decided already that if I were to go through with it, I’d only be able to keep myself away for a week. And I was right. The entire time I was a way I was itching to write something, to DO something but forced myself away.
Then I found myself back into my old routine of self loathing for a little while as I had nothing to pour my bad energy into, at first I even kept myself away from books knowing I’d end up picking one of the ones that needed reviewing and probably end up reviewing it! I had to set myself boundaries and rules and distract my brain with other things to occupy my time.
But by Sunday morning I knew I was ready to go back to blogging on Monday. My heart and my head felt lighter, my body was more relaxed and there was a little peacefulness inside of me for a little bit.
However it wasn’t only the feelings I had that made me believe it was time to come back out of “hiding”.
I had 2 signs show me that I was ready:
Was the feelings I felt. The lightness in my heart, it made me feel as though I was ready to take on the pain of others, to help good people through bad times. I was ready to start chasing my dreams again, not keep fighting and not give up. I truly did feel as though I could take on the world with a genuine smile plastered to my face.
The second came in the form of body weight. For the first time in I don’t even know how long to be honest, I am almost 7 stone! In the week I had taken for myself, I had put on weight without realising it which is a sign that my body is starting to realise when it’s hungry again, starting to unconsciously give me hunger signs back without me even realising it until I weighed myself.
Through this I realised that the break way did me a massive deal of good, but not once did I loose that passion to blog, to write, to help, to keep chasing my dreams.
It showed me that even when doing something we love, something we enjoy, we still need to remember to take a break away from it. Otherwise you’ll find yourself hating the very thing you used to love.
When I realised that just how light I felt, that’s when I knew it was time to come back. That I was ready to face whatever, and ready to keep fighting for the future I want, for the dreams I want to achieve.
And I know I’m not the only one capable of such things! Connecting with so many amazing bloggers/creators/business people/authors and following their journey helps in reminding me that everyone falls off the horse at some point, falling off doesn’t matter, what does is getting back on.
I want to thank you all for taking the time to read my post and I hope you are all having a wonderful week so far! And never forget that if ever you feel the need to talk to someone, my messages are always open to you. I will listen, I won’t judge you, and I can assure you that everything that is discussed between us will be discussed under confidentiality, not a single thing will be shared UNLESS I feel you are harm to yourself or others (but we know most cases that isn’t the case, but I do feel as though it’s something I should state).
Where did June go? I swear I blinked and it’s July!
When a new month hits, so do new goals. Over the past couple of months, really, my mental health has been winning the upper hand but I’m still continuing to fight back with any means necessary. While it has been succeeding in pulling me down again, I’ve really become less engaging and I’ve been feeling a bit disconnected from everything to be honest. From my blog, social media, my life…everything.
And I don’t have much hopes at the moment that my feelings are going to change as July is going to become a incredibly difficult month for my family as both my mum and little sister have operations this month, my sister’s a little more extreme than my mums. A lot of my effort will be going to helping care for my family.
However, that doesn’t mean that I haven’t spent all of June preparing and getting ready to throw some exciting things your way! Such as the following below:
My ‘LittleTinkablee Anxiety” Candles will be ready for Purchase on 20th July.
I have some homemade bookmarks that will be available for purchase on 30th July.
I have SO many book reviews coming your way.
I have a Hair clip review to share with you all.
I have a new post coming up all to do with jars!
I have a new post about cats coming your way.
I’ll be doing my ‘Lets Talk Pets’ Series every Friday’s and Thursday’s (Email me at Littletinkable@gmail.com if you would like to share your pet story)
I have a harry potter AND an all bookish Giveaway announcement on 4th July
I’ll be starting my “My bully experience” again, every Thursday (Email me if you’d like to participate!)
More mental health related posts
And of course the spur of the moment/ a few little rambling posts.
Besides doing a whole lot of planning, June wasn’t that bad of a month really. My little sister turn the big Sweet Sixteen! How the time flies! I still remember waking up early on her second birthday to run down stairs and give her my special/favourite sparkly blue teddy (Even then I had a feel she would be drawn sparkly things!) that was given to me by my older sister when she was 14 maybe 15 years old.
Just before her 16th birthday me and my other younger sister decide to take her out somewhere special, my sister LOVES anything to do with Pusheen, how could she not? It’s (in her words) a cute “Derpy” cat. And so when my sister found out that Pusheen was doing a Live tour and coming to Liverpool…Well it’s safe to say that we were able to pack down our anxiety and other problems so we could take our sister out and enjoy the day, you can read all about it here: Pusheen On Tour.
We also ate some Dr Pepper Candy Floss!
Also my heart, the love of my life and my forever person turned 22 this year and now I’m only a month behind him, how crazy is that?! Years seems to be flying by lately and it’s really got me thinking about a lot of things. I wrote him a birthday message on my blog as a way for not only me but for my blog to wish him a BIG happy birthday. “A Happy Birthday Message To My Love.”
My, Hallow book arrived! And has made me even more excited to see my books by the amazingly talented Olga Gibbs. You can read my review of Olga Gibbs first book in ‘The Celestial Creatures’ series, Heavenward (which is currently free to purchase your e-copy). You can also check out my review of the second book Hallow and my review with the enchanting author herself! – An Interview with Olga Gibbs.
I also completed a 30 Day Yoga June challenge along with @Autisticfitchic and @Pagesplacesplates and @nyxiesnook who are three incredibly passonate -not to mention extraordinary- bloggers who too enjoy the benefits that yoga provides and I’m excited to be doing another challenge along side @Autisticfitchic and @Pagesplacesplates.
After being nominated 6 times for the 73 Vogue Question tag (which will be up later today) I have found out thanks to Pottermore I have been placed into the HufflePuff housing! So I guess I’m a fellow Hufflepuff for all those who ask 😀 .
I wrote a post on anxiety and the effect that it can have on our memory which you can check out here: Anxiety and Memory Loss.
I also read and reviewed Emily’s enthralling and extraordinary compile of poems transformed into a beautiful and captivating book. You can check out my review and how to get your hands on your own copy of Emily’s amazing book, ‘Nicotine and Napalm.’
I did my first ever Giveaway! One of a four part giveaway – (three more are coming your way).
Me and my boyfriend jogged half a mile and up a hill to capture and watch the first Summer Solstice sunset, the first sunset of summer! We brought Toby with us and all enjoyed a magical moment as the sky changed before our very eyes.
I have also done a tea syrup review for Yandra who not only bring to us all natural and lovely tasting tea but have now come out with a new syrup called ‘ Rose Simple’ Syrup. Check out my review HERE.
Me and my boyfriend also rescued a baby hedgehog on the 19th June, it was so adorable! I now want a hedgehog. The poor thing was frozen in fear! So my boyfriend very carefully picked him/her up and we took it to a local park where we had spotted other hedgehogs and where there were wooded areas for it to hid in. We ended up nick naming him Sonic out of irony because of how slow he was, it took him a whole 10 minutes to walk off my boyfriend jacket and back onto solid land. Despite being scared at first, he very quickly got used to used to use and even poked his head out and starting sniffing us!
I bought two incredibly wonderful Lush Bath bombs (the dragon egg was by far my favourite smell!) One was so beautifully scented I have decided to live and die in that smell, my other bath bomb was just too pretty and glittery for words.
I also dyed my hair again! It’s still purple but now I have pink blended into the tips and it’s now kick started my addiction/obsession for dying my hair.
Despite all the challenges and struggles that July has to bring I am determined to make the most of this month. If you are struggling please, don’t be afraid to reach out to me, ALL conversations are confidential and non judgemental. If you aren’t looking for a conversation but rather just a listen ear, I con provide that for you too.
This isn’t your typical/ usual post for me. This is message, a love poem, a love song, or whatever you want to call, for a soul so great it sweep mine off it’s feet.
Today is a special day, it’s the day my boyfriend grows a year older. Today is a day for celebrating life, more importantly celebrating such a wonderful soul. I’ll soon be joining you in the world of 22 in a month time!
Firstly, I’ll start this post off by saying a BIG, Happy Birthday to the love of my life, Dan.
I know you all may be wondering why I am not just wishing him a happy birthday in person, I am and will do so later. But writing a typical blog post today didn’t feel right, especially since this blog wouldn’t have even happened if it wasn’t for his help. So it only felt right, that my blog too wished him the biggest of happy birthdays!
He has helped me in more ways than I ever could explain, he has pushed me, motivated and driven me to want to be a better me, all while protecting me and caring for me when I’ve needed it. He’s be my biggest silent supporter and without his support I don’t think my blog would have ever came to be.
Meeting such a strong soul such as my Dan has entirely changed my life, I feel as though upon meeting him I had been opened up to a whole knew world. At first he was mysterious and exciting but then quickly became my safe zone, my cornerstone, my heart and home wrapped up in a human package.
He’s has shown me a love so deep I could never go back to the love I once thought I knew as love. I never would have dreamt that I would find you so early on in life and although it hasn’t always been perfect, I wouldn’t want to change a moment that we have spent together. The good, the bad and the ugly, I’ll take it all as long I have this magnificent soul by my side through it all.
When you are in such a long and committed relationship we can let slip the things that made us first drawn to our partners. The little things we use to notice can sometime become things that then annoy us, the more time we spend with that special someone the more we forget that we are spending time with a special someone and we can let the small silly things come between our relationship at times.
We can forget to capture the a moment in our memories for a later date, we forget to laugh a joke, we forget to humour our partner and we can forget to smile, laugh, play, and enjoy the company we have.
Every new year with this amazing soul is always a new adventure for me and I can’t wait to see the many more adventures the future has in store for us. I count myself lucky to have fallen in love with my best friend, I love growing with him and learning new things, everything is always excited even on the slow and boring days.
And no one has shown me the care and love that he does. So, if you ever read this post Dan, just know you have me. Heart, body and soul. And I can’t wait to share another birthday and along with many more season/holidays/special occasions with you.
I’m a writer. I’ve lived and breathed words my entire life and yet I have never come across a word or sentence that describe the love, appreciation and adoration I have for this amazing man but I’ll be happy to spend the rest of outlives making sure he knows just how deeply I love him, on the good days and bad. I wouldn’t change a moment with him.
You can find out more about our little adventures and daily life by following my Instagram – @Littletinkablee
I just want to say before we get into today’s new post that I know that I have been a little absent lately and I do apologise for that, but I’m back with new content, a new giveaway on the way and a exciting announcement on the way! I would also like to thank you all for your patience and your support but more importantly I want to thank the people amazing people who have helped and continued supporting me from the very start and still continue to do so now. I have a special post coming up soon dedicated to those few amazing people.
On 15th June 2019 me and my younger sister Courtney took our other much younger sister – Cait – out to town for one of her early 16th birthday gifts. Our little sister is OBSESSED with anything related to pusheen and when my sister came across the ‘Pusheen on Tour’ and had seen they were making their way to Liverpool she contacted me and asked if it was something I wanted to take our little sister too.
My sister is aware of how bad my anxiety is (as she suffers – but handles it more like a warrior than I do – with anxiety too) and knows that I need time in advance to work myself up to leaving the house and going out somewhere so public and busy with people.
Going to this Pusheen tour even was a little push for all of us but I would have to say it was more of a push for our younger sister as she suffers from Autism and Asperger on a high scale, being around so many people and so far from home, so far from our mum is always a massive challenge for her.
Whats more is that Courtney wanted it to be surprise for our sister (our sister is great with surprises…unless it involves going somewhere, then she likes to know exactly where she is going, what it looks like, how long it will take to get there, what transport she would have be on…like me she needs to know EVERYTHING) Which I was a little unsure about but went along with anyway because I know how much she loved Pusheen and the distraction of the event may help in lessening her worry about being somewhere.
Eventually though we did have to shed a little light on her surprise and warn her that we would be out and about for this, so she had some time to prepare herself.
On, Saturday 15th June, we all woke ourselves up. Bleary eyed and sleepy headed, we got ready for an early day an left the house at 8:30am to make it a little early for the opening time which was 9:30am.
The bus ride there was long but quiet which was nice, I could see the excitement on my sister’s face even behind her tired look. We stood in line for around 20 – 30 minutes before they opened their doors to use (They opened me 10-15 minutes past 9:30am). They wait wasn’t so bad, we had made it with a enough time to be somewhat at the front of the line, it really didn’t take long for that line to grow once we had made it there. There were a lot of anxious and excited Pusheen fans waiting to get their free candy floss and discounted items.
I was slightly disappointed once we made it through the doors as the area they had dedicated to the Pusheen tour was very small and cramped, I don’t feel as though enough effort was put into the lay out of where they were going to have their customers engage and look at things. There were defiantly a few items along the back of the wall NEXT to the Pusheen tour items that could have be taken to the back, for the day without it affecting any of their normal purchase.
Other than the MAJOR lack of space which didn’t bond well for any of us, the staff were amazing, friendly and down right lovely to be around, they had some amazing items around us to buy. Not to mention that we were given free goody bags as we walked through the door which held Pusheen related items in them!
We didn’t stay long due to the over crowding, people were finding it difficult to get in and out, to decorate a cookie, to get their free candy floss and it was even too cramped to pick up items and purchase them. However we were able to have a look at what they had around and Cait was even able to pick out a few things.
After buying her items I told Courtney to wait for us by the door as I went back to take our receipt back to the woman that was handling the raffle (if you took back your receipt after buying something, you were able to join in the free raffle), we didn’t win anything from that but I was able to get the girls their free candy floss before leaving the building and continuing on with our day.
Because of house quick it felt like we were there and with how early we had left the house, we decided to pop into a few shops, buy some new clothes, a few items before going for something to eat.
We ended up in Taco bell (the first time I had been in there) where the girls had some tacos, wrap and cheesy chips and I just had some cheesy chips. I have to say that I really enjoyed their cheesy chips, a lot, but didn’t get through many of them. We watched an old woman feeding pigeons and seagulls as we ate our food and talked about where to go or what to do next.
We ended up going to Lush after grabbing a bite to eat and I have to say that I love it inside! You could SMELL the Lush shop before you even got to it, and upon entertaining in, it’s like you’ve entered a mythical land of colours and strong scents. I didn’t Find anything on the bottom floor, though the girls did find one corner of the shop they liked…
The second floor was where I fell in love, but more than anything I fell in love with the scent on the Dragon Egg Bath bomb, I could live in that scent all day!
I also found a really beautiful and colourful INTERGALACTIC Bath Bomb, while Courtney had fallen in love with theSex Bomb Bath Bomb. I also love the staff that are working there, who are just so friendly. The woman I had checking out my items was exceptionally lovely, I was even able to have a comfortable little chat with her and she guessed my accent first go! That’s the first time anyone has guess my accent first go.
All in all, we had a wonderful sisterly day were our anxiety didn’t win over us, we had fun, we enjoyed ourselves and made it home all very tired but all very happy.
I didn’t end up getting the free cotton candy from the Pusheen On Tour event (though I’m a little glad because the girls didn’t like it, it was too thick and almost chewy, it didn’t melt the way cotton candy is meant to) however I did buy myself, my own personal stash of cotton candy that I just love, love, love!
Guys never let your fears, your mental health or mental illnesses stop you from doing anything that you want, don’t let it prevent you from attending events, chasing a dream of yours or from doing something that makes you smile or happy.
There will be days that it will win over us, but the more we fight back, the more days we will win over them! I hope you are all having a lovely weekend and please if you have any questions, problems or requests please feel free contact me here:
So last week was ‘Mental Health Awareness Week’ which motivated me into posting a little more on mental health in the hopes and help of spreading awareness, leading me into thinking a lot more about my own mental health which hasn’t been the best recently and the more I posted about my past struggles and recent it’s brought to light just how much I’ve actually been ignoring my own mental health in the hopes that it would just… disappear I guess.
This week I’m taking a new approach to everything, I haven’t worked EVERYTHING out just yet but I know I will eventually. I don’t want to feel like an impostor posting all this positivity that I’m personally not feeling myself.
I want to start feeling that little glimmer of positive energy that I had when first starting my blog up a few months ago, and to do that I’ve listed a few positive things I want to do throughout the day, everyday of the week to try and ensure a positive week, which will hopefully lead to a better month and in turn a great year.
So what steps am I taking to ensure I have a positive start to my week?
Start my day off with a positive/motivational quote.
Now this may seem silly to some but reading positive/motivational messages can be really good for you, you can feed off of that positive vibe that person had when creating that quote.
I personally love quotes and I always have. I remember when I was 14 and I covered my whole bedroom walls with all different coloured/shaped post-it-notes that had all kind of quotes that I had written/drawn onto them because my mum had forbid me to write on my walls.
Anyone can own a quote, anyone can think up a quote, you don’t have to be famous or a “really big deal” to have your own quote.You see quotes (especially inspirational quotes) EVERYWHERE. Schools, collages, hospitals, your local doctors, shops, on coffee shop sandwich boards and the main source is online; Tumblr, Pinterest, Facebook, Instagram, you can even see people’s favourite quotes on Goodreads.
You see quotes (especially inspirational quotes) EVERYWHERE. Schools, collages, hospitals, your local doctors, shops, on coffee shop sandwich boards and the main source is online; Tumblr, Pinterest, Facebook, Instagram, you can even see people’s favourite quotes on Goodreads. Quotes are everywhere and they are coaching us from the sidelines of our lives with little pep talks from labels on soap dispensers and tea towels and so on it goes.
With all that in mind I have been thinking about creating and printing out my own positive/motivational quotes when I start printing out ********** (sorry guys I’m keeping it a secret until all is sorted).
Drink hot chocolate or a calming tea in the morning.
I’ve done a rather good job at cutting coffee out of my life this year (though there have been a few times I’ve ‘fallen off the wagon’ and may have caved into a few coffee’s here and there). But I want to continue on cutting out as much caffeine in my life as possible in the hopes that it will help me control my anxiety some day.
I have one of those mums whose every solution to every problems has always been, “Have a cup of tea.”
Feeling sick? Have a cup of tea.
Having friend problems? Have a cup of tea.
Feeling upset? Have a cup of tea.
Just broke your leg? Have a cup of tea…
And well I guess you see my point. Tea is the solution!
If that doesn’t convince maybe some of these tea benefits will?
Tea contains antioxidants. Teas of all varieties contain high levels of antioxidants polyphenol that can help keep your body healthier.
Tea has less caffeine than coffee. While there are some potential health benefits to consuming moderate amounts of caffeine, drinking loads of it is hard on your hear, other organs and really bad for those who suffer anxiety.
Tea can create a calmer but more alert state of mind, helping you relax and concentrate more fully on tasks.
Tea eases irritability, headaches, nervous tension and in some cases insomnia.
Tea can also cause a temporary increase in short term memory. Not feeling your best today but need to be on the ball? Try drinking some tea! The caffeine it does contain may give you the boost you need to improve your memory, at least for a few hours.
I could list so many more but thought I would try and keep it short as I have more to talk about and share with you.
This year I have been working really hard at my yoga but this month I haven’t done as well and I’ve not stuck to it as much as I had at the beginning. I want to change that and start doing my yoga every morning 7am or 8am sharp!
Thinking about starting yoga? Here are some yoga health benefits;
Yoga can increase your flexibility
It can increase your muscle strength and tone
It can improve respiration, energy and vitality
It protects your spin
And increase your blood flow
Yoga can increase your self-esteem and gives you peace of mind
It also perfects your posture
There are so many benefits to yoga that I can talk bout if for days and days! Which is why I’ll cut it short here and save the rest for yoga post.
Go for a nature walk
If there’s one thing I love, it’s talking a nice and relaxing stroll with my significant other away from busy traffic and chattering people, where nature still has claim on its land.
My boyfriends ‘go to’ solution for when I am down is to usually take us on what I like to call our little ‘adventures’ where we would walk to the most isolated place we could walk to and enjoy the wonders that nature has to offer. No sound of people, of technology or cars. Just the grassy ground, the quiet air, and singing birds flying by. More often than not taking our little adventure usually works and I find my self flying with the feeling of happiness and love.
Something about being out in the fresh air with my love by my side and no sound or sight of anyone else eases my mind instantly and I always feel myself more relaxed, laying and smiling a lot more. I’ve always been an outdoorsy girl, even when I was younger.
Taking a walk in nature once every day is also going to help push me out of my comfort zone and help me comfortable my anxiety in hopefully a calmer and more comfortable environment for myself. It’s going to be a big push for me but something I feel I need to do, something I realised last week that I’ve might have been ready to do all along.
And, Lastly – READ FOR MY OWN PLEASURE
Reading is something I love to do and do every day but since starting my blog I have stopped reading books simply for my own pleasure and have only been reading books for book reviews and as much as I love and enjoy doing this, I do miss reading books just for myself and so I want to start doing that again this week.
I know some days are going to go by great and others are going to be terrible but it’s all part of life. You have to take the good with the bad and the bad with the good. The bad helps remind us what the good in our lives actually is, it helps keeps us focused on our goal, to live our life as happy and care free as possible.
I hope you have enjoyed to days post and I hope this helps motivate you into ensuring yourself in having a good.
Don’t forget, Mental Health Awareness maybe over and the month is soon coming to an end my dms/messages and email: firstname.lastname@example.org are always open to anyone seeking confidential and non judgemental help/advice.
I also hope this post can help get you in a positive mood this Monday morning. Remember, You can face whatever battle you are facing just take it one day at a time, have a lovely week!