Mental Health Week 2021 – Nature

If you hadn’t heard already, this week is mental health week and like every mental health week that’s held each year by the Mental Health Foundation this year holds a new theme: Nature.

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Mental Health Awareness Week – Nature

For me nature is something I have always been surrounded by. A wooded area in my old town home used to be my frequent playground and animals have always been constant companions in my life. I don’t think I could survive without loosing myself to nature at least 2 to 3 times a week, it’s like a medicine that I need to take weekly that helps to rejuvenate me.

Mental Health Awareness Week - Nature
Mental Health Awareness Week – Nature

Nature is so central to our psychological and emotional health and benefits us in SO many ways and to avoid or ignore those benefits and the beauty of nature is simply like us avoiding medicine when we are sick, except this medicine doesn’t have a particular taste and doesn’t come in a bottle but it helps our mental state just as well.

With the rise in social media over the years a lot of people have forgotten how important the simplicity of walking down a dirt path/road or listening to the birds sing their songs are truly needed to help us and our racing minds slow down a little. It helps us to stop/slow down to apricate the small good things in life, which with all the negativity and fear that circles us constantly it feels so important that we can still acknowledge and appreciate the smaller things in life.

Suffering with sever anxiety and to one point so sever that I never left my house for a little over a year for absolutely anything, I never felt as though I was alive but simply just going through the motions of life. When I was able to push myself into going for little walks or taking friends/family’s dogs for a walk through small wood areas or parks/fields it felt like a soothing balm to my anxiety filled soul.

As some can imagine being secluded to only four walls has horrible affects to the mental health and although I still find myself tucking myself away from society a lot of the time I have made so much progress from my darker days/nights when couldn’t even walk out the back or front door to stand in my own garden without being overtaken by my anxiety.

Before I was unable to leave my house, before my anxiety took full control of my life I had already been diagnosed with depression and was in the process of being diagnose with an eating disorder. My only true escape was when I wandered off into the woods or took a walk where I knew no one really walked other than a few dog people walking their dogs.

When I was little girl to escape a lot of home problems and the feeling of overcrowding (I have a BIG family) I would hike up the welsh hills/mountains until I reached the very top, I’d spend hours just basking in the nature around me and laughing at the sheep running around, playing and eating grass. It was a true escape for me, it always was and still is and probably will always be my escape, my safe haven and my soothing balm.

Without the escape of nature I don’t know how I would have been able to cope mentally at those times, sometimes a walk in the park or woods is the thing that lets me stop and breath without feeling like huge weight is trying to crush me.

Mental Health Awareness Week - Nature
Mental Health Awareness Week – Nature

In nature I can feel the tension leave my body, a smile suddenly appears on my face and all those racing thoughts I couldn’t stop before suddenly become silent. It’s as though nature keeps my negative thoughts at bay, allowing the positive to flow through and try and heal some of the damage from the bleak and gloomy thoughts.

Recovery from mental health and from physical health can be daunting and at times discouraging as at time you can find yourself slipping back instead of forwards, and for me nature place such an immense role in helping me through my recovery.

I’m no where near to where I want to be but in my own time I am slowly getting there. So remember, recovery, it isn’t easy but it is possible and there is no time length to recovery. Recovery last as long as you need it too and it should all happen at YOUR own pace, so never compare your recovery journey to someone else’s recovery journey. We’re all on different yet similar journey’s and just like we respect other’s we should respect our own journey and struggles.

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I am not where I want to be in life, but just being able to go out on a 10 minute walk makes me feel so much more free than when I was secluded to simply four walls. For me nature is the natural balm for the soul.

World Suicide Prevention Day – WSPD 2020

World Suicide Prevention day is an annual awareness day that takes place every 10th September. This annual awareness day is aimed to get everyone around the world to speak up and talk about suicide to show people that recovery IS possible.

Organisations, charities and communities all take World Suicide Prevention Day seriously and take advantage of the day to rally together to help spread awareness of how we can help create a world where fewer people die from suicide.

Every year World Suicide Prevention Day hold a different theme and point of focus in the hopes of drawing more people to their cause and to help bring light to a specific aspect of suicide. What ever the theme is that year, the goal is always still the same, to provide worldwide commitment and action to prevent suicide.

World Suicide Prevention Day (WSPD) is hosted by International Association For Suicide Prevention (or for short – IASP) who are dedicated to:

Preventing Suicidal Behaviour

Alleviating its effects

Providing a forum for academics, mental health professionals, crisis workers, volunteers and suicide survivors

Founded by the late Professor Erwin Ringel and Dr. Norman Farberow in 1960, IASP now includes professionals and volunteers from more than fifty different countries. IASP is a Non-Governmental Organisation covered with suicide prevention.

If you would like to learn more about International Association For Suicide Prevention or find out how you can help why not check out their website: IASP

So why is it so important to speak out about suicide?


– Well, just in 2018, it was recorded that in the UK and Republic of Ireland, more than 6,800 people died of suicide.

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In the Uk, men are 3x more likely to die by suicide than women are and that stems from a number of things but the biggest one is the lack of normalising our emotions, especially for our men. Little boys are taught to be tough from a really young age, they are taught that cry makes you weak, that speaking out about your emotions and what’s floating around inside your head as something only girls do.

Men have been made to feel as though they don’t get to experience emotions, they aren’t allowed to let them show. But that’s a load of poppycock. You aren’t made any less of man just because you have shown people that you too are human and experience emotions, worries and troubles just like everyone else.

There is still massive amounts of terrible stigma surrounded men, surrounding people with mental health and those who are suicidal, that World Suicide Prevention Day hopes to help over come.

It’s Okay Not To Be Okay

It’s okay to speak up and out

It’s okay to struggle

It’s okay to feel lost, helpless, alone, sad, angry

and it’s okay to tell someone about how you feel

As long as you fight back, as long as you speak up, as long as you don’t let those emotions and thoughts overwhelm you into a situation that can never been reverse, can never be undone.

According to Samaritans Suicide Stats Report from December 2019:

There were 6,859 suicides in the UK and Republic of Ireland.
• 6,507 suicides were registered in the UK and 352
occurred in the Republic of Ireland.
• The suicide rate in Northern Ireland is the highest in the UK –
where men aged 25-29 have the highest suicide rate.
• The highest suicide rate in the UK, and England, is among men aged 45-49.
• The highest suicide rate in Wales is among men aged 40-44.
• The highest suicide rate in the Republic of Ireland is among men aged 55-64.
• The highest rate in Scotland is among men aged 35-44.
• There has been a significant increase in suicide in
the UK, the first time since 2013 – this appears to be
driven by an increase in the male suicide rate.
• In the UK, suicide rates among young people have been
increasing in recent years. The suicide rate for young
females is now at its highest rate on record.
• In the UK men remain three times more likely to take their own lives
than women, and in the Republic of Ireland four times more likely.
• Suicide has continued to fall in both males and
females in the Republic of Ireland.

If you want to find out more about the suicide stats report then head over to the Samaritans Website: Samaritans.org or click her to head directly to their stats report simply CLICK HERE.

If you or anyone you know is struggling right now then please reach out to someone, a friend, an internet friend, a family member, even a stranger. If you feel comfortable enough you can feel free to reach out to me, all conversations with me are private and confidential. I can offer advice, a listening ear and friendship.

Every life we lose to suicide is a tragedy, one we all have hopes in preventing.

Or you can check out these incredible websites that dedicate their time and resources to helping those who need it:

Samaritans

or Call 116 123
Email jo@samaritans.org

CALM

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – for men
Call 0800 58 58 58 – 5pm to midnight every day
Visit the webchat page

Papyrus

Papyrus – for people under 35
Call 0800 068 41 41 – Monday to Friday 9am to 10pm, weekends and bank holidays 2pm to 10pm
Text 07860 039967
Email pat@papyrus-uk.org

ChildLine

Childline – for children and young people under 19
Call 0800 1111 – the number will not show up on your phone bill

Contact your local GP.

or you can call 111 out of hours – they will help you find the support and help you need

Just know you aren’t alone, you aren’t the only one who has had these feelings and there are people out there who would be devastated and broken should anything happen to you. Even when it doesn’t feel like anyone cares, life is complicated and we get caught up in the moments and that means sometimes we let things and people slide. We have to remind ourselves that that doesn’t me we aren’t cared for, that they only want our time and attention when it suits them but simply that life has directed them away and then back to you again.

Everyone has a time and place in your life, if you are finding yourself lonely then perhaps that’s life’s way of trying to direct you into looking after yourself, paying attention to yourself, start a new journey that only you can take or learning to accept and love yourself. There is a different perspective to every single situation the challenging part is trying to change our own perspectives to get a more positive out look.

March 8th – International Women’s Day 2020

Today is March 8th, International Women’s Day. Today is the first day since entering this new decade that we get to celebrate International Women’s Day!

What is International Women’s Day, you ask?


International Women’s Day is a Day devoted to the movement for women’s rights.

Commemoration of international women’s day today ranges from being a public holiday in some countries to being a to being largely ignored elsewhere. In some places, it is a day of protest; in others, it is a day that celebrates womanhood.

in 1910, German delegates Clara Zetkin, Kate Dunker and others proposed at the International Socialist Women’s conference that a “special women Day” be organized annually.

In 1917, after women gained suffrage in Soviet Russia, March 8th became a national holiday there and after that? The day was then predominantly celebrated by socialist movement and communist countries until it was then adopted by the feminist movement in about 1976.

The united Nation began celebrating international women day in the international women’s year, 1975. In 1977, the untied Nation General Assembly invited member states to proclaim March 8th as the UN (United Nations) day for women’s right and world peace

ONE YEAR BLOGIVERSARY

Well, It happened!

I’m not quite sure how, but I made it to a year of blogging!

Today marks my one year Blogiversary and I couldn’t be more proud of myself for sticking with it and making it to my first year of blogging.

My blog wouldn’t be a year old today if it wasn’t for my readers, supporters and followers. Starting a blog hasn’t been easy, and there were moments where I wanted to give in and delete my blog but with the encouragement and support from friends, family, my readers/followers and other amazing bloggers I toughed it out and stuck with it.

And it feels so incredible to be able to say that my blog is now a year old!

Despite the bad start to the year I did manage to find a few good moments through all the bad and even got out a bit to take a few photos. I’ve taken a LOT of photos of the moon already this year as well as of my cats that you can find over on my facebook pages:

  • LittleTinkablee Blog
  • Tinkablee Animal Kingdom

I have a lot planned this year and for the following ones a head so I am going to be slightly distance from social media for a little bit however I’ll still be engaging and my messages are still open to those who need it.

I couldn’t thank you all enough for sticking with me and reading through my posts and I hope that you enjoy or find help through my future posts.

Vogue Parody – 73 Questions

Good morning you beautiful bunch of people!

Today is going to be a good day and you want to know why? Because I’m going to make it so! The sun is shining, shedding light on the dark and heating up the cold, leaving no traces of the rainy night left behind.

So, a while ago I got nominated for ‘the Vogue Parody – 73 Questions post, by the beautiful and strong, Leo, owner of Theanxiousteachtwo.home.blog an amazing blog about Lifestyle, books and mental health and I recommend you check her bog out!

Since then I have allowed personal life to over take my writing, it has set me back a little and through that time I’ve had @Naomi_Inchingfowards @Amy_Mary_J @Ami_T1995 @femenish also nominate me for this! So instead of doing five different posts (I don’t think I could re-answer all 73 questions, my answers would pretty much be the same) I thought I would wrap it all up in one and thank these amazing, supportive and incredible bloggers. So, THANK YOU ALL, SO SO MUCH!

I can’t stress how much you are missing out by not following any of these bloggers, I’d follow them all over again if possible!

Leo – theanxiousteachtwo.home.blog/
Naomi – inchingforwards.com/
Amy_May_J – sassycatlady.com/
Ami – undercoversuperhero2.home.blog/
Kat – Femenish.com/

Through this post I will be answering 73 questions and at the end nominating 12 other amazing bloggers to do the same. No need to make any questions up yourself, you just answer the same ones as me.

So, Let’s begin!


1.
What is your usual Starbucks order?

Would you believe me if I told you I have never stepped foot into any Starbucks? Because they’ve always been so popular with people their stores are always too crowded for me, not to mention interacting with someone like that, being in the spotlight while trying to pick my order is more than my anxiety can handle, so I’ve actually never went into one and I’ve never ordered at one.

2.
What does your workstation look like right now?

Try to picture a messy Library or notebook store… I have books, notebooks, pens, paper and half tried ideas everywhere, I suppose it could do with some organising by now.

3.
All time favourite food?

I really don’t have the best relationship with food, I don’t enjoy anything about it and so I can’t say I have a favourite…. expect Pizza? Pizza has been the only thing I can truthfully say is the only thing I’ve ever enjoyed eating. Although, sausages, mash and gravy has always been my hands down favourite

4.
Favourite Author?

Does it have to be just one? Because I’ve always enjoyed books written by:
Lauren Kate
Stephenie Meyer
E. L. James
L. J. Smith
Maggie Stiefvater
(There’s more but honestly, my full answer would probably take over this post 😛 )

5.
What do you think of open relationships?

There is so much I have to say on this topic that I don’t think I can just discus or say here in a short few sentences so I’ll write a blog post based on this in answer to this question.

6.
What is your favourite video game?

I’ve never really been one for games to be honest. When I was younger, sure I loved them as much as the next kid did but by my teens all interest in most games got cut out for me but if I had to pick it would be all the old retro games, all the ones you could get for the PS1. Although my boyfriend has recently started getting me into gaming again…

7.
Guilty Pleasure Treat?

Ben & Jerry’s Chocolate fudge Ice-cream!

8.
Favourite Movie?

School Of Rock!

9.
Favourite Book?

That’s a really tough one for me… I don’t think I can pick.

10.
Twitter or Instagram?

I love Instagram for all the photos, it’s honestly the ONLY reason I’m still on there (though I might switch over to Vero instead, I’ve had the account sitting there for years but I’ve not really explored it yet). So I would have to say Twitter. The engagement, the community and support is 1000X better than anywhere else.

11.
Desktop or Laptop?

If we had to be honest? Laptop is easier, more portable but you can never go wrong with PC Desktop.

12.
Best advice you’ve ever recieved?

I believe I had answer this (or a similar question) In this post Sunshinebloggeraward and what I had said was:

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given?

The best piece of advice I have ever been given has been off my mum, ‘You can’t please everyone, so start with pleasing yourself, even if you think it will displease me. Because at the end of the day you are responsible for your happiness, not for everyone else’s.’

13.
What project are you working on right now?

I actually have quite a few things in work right now, some I can’t reveal as it’s still a secret for now, but these are the one’s I’ve openly spoken about so far:

1. I have a WIP (Work in progress ). I am currently working on my own novel that I hope to one day see published.
2. I’m still working on my Anxiety Candle range that I hope to have released this July (a month earlier than planned).
3. I’m also going to be releasing my own Wax melts and soaps.
4. I’m working/getting ready for next year when I introduce Vlogging to my blogging.
5. My blog is still my biggest work project right now.
6. The rest is a secret…for now.

14.
Favourite Colour?

PURPLE!!

15.
Did you get good grades at school?

I did fairly well in school, education has never been a problem for me it’s always been socially/mentally. My school work almost suffered for my fear of actually attending school, because I just couldn’t handle being around so many people in such a closed space, but luckily when I was in school I was able to separate thought from feeling, mind from heart. I got done what was needed and then got out as soon as I was let able to .

16.
Dream Job?

Ever since I was little I knew that I wanted to help people. I’ve watch people close to me hurt/struggle, I’ve watched those from afar I’ve never known personally to hurt/struggle and it’s always pained me, it’s always made me want to do something, anything. But I’ve also always loved writing, it’s always been…me? If that makes sense, it’s just the better way I’ve always been able to express myself. I feel like my thoughts come out better and my meanings too when I can get it down on some paper.
1. I want to be a counsellor. I’ve recently applied for a course to help bring me a step closer to my dream.
2. Author. I want to see my book out there one day, I want to see people reading and enjoying my words, my own created little world.
3. I want to be known for selling my candles one day. I’ve always been obsessed with candles an it’s only grown since I’ve started teaching myself to make them.

17.
Played any sports?

I hate sports. The only thing I liked in school was badminton and ice-skating. I’ve only recently just added exercise into my daily routines.

18.
Do you have a degree?

Nope

19.
Nationality?

British

20.
What is your favourite kind of blog post to do?

As hard as they can be, I love doing my mental health post. I love informing others while I’m informing myself, I love helping others discover something new about their mental illness while I am still learning about my own.

21.
What do you like to collect?

…. Almost everything. I’m a little bit of a hoarder, I feel like I’ve gotten better with time and now really only collect; Notebooks, Books, Small items, boxes (I love boxes, you can never have to many for storage) stationary items, Teddies, Unicorn Items… I really like to collect themed items.

22.
Describe yourself in three words.

Ambitious, Creative, Determined (or stubborn, I feel as though they go hand in hand though 😛 )

23.
If you were a rapper, what would your rapper name be?

….LittleTink? Or Jayne Plane or maybe even, Tinkastic T J…. I’m think far too much into something that will never happen!

24.
Who was the last person you Dm’d?

I’m not sure….

25.
What’s on the top of your wish list right now?

A better camera.

26.
Sorting house?

I won’t lie, I had no idea what this was until I just googled sorting house, which then brought me to the: Wizarding World Site who sorted me into the ‘Hufflepuff’ sorting house. So, Pottermore has chosen Hufflepuff to be my sorting house

27.
How many tattoos do you have?

Currently none, however in August for my 22nd I’m going in for my first tattoo, as I’ve FINALLY decided on what kind of tattoo I want and where.

28.
What are you grateful for this year?

The support from my family and friends while starting a blog for the first time this year!

29.
What’s the best thing that’s happened to you this month?

This month? Having my talented younger sister dye my hair two colours (I’ve only ever gone and dyed it one, I usually like to keep things simple).

30.
What’s the best thing that’s happen to you today?

The best thing that has happened to me today was, I ordered loads of books the other day and they’re all slowly starting to arrive!

31.
What’s the best thing ever?

Being in a room full of kittens…duh. And chocolate.

32.
Favourite Season?

Last year, I would have told you it was Winter. Now I see it for what I truly liked about winter (again something I’ll dive in depth on in a another post). Now, I have to say it’s Spring. The season of life and birth.

33.
Favourite Holiday?

………..

34.
What fictional character do you relate to most?

Far too many of them! It’s part of the reason I love reading so much.

35.
Do you like surprises?

No. I’m too much of an anxious person to like surprises, they usually just set me on edge… (although I have had my fair share of good surprises – thank you mum and my boyfriend! – not enough to make me like them though)

36.
What’s the biggest surprise you’ve ever had?

I’ve had a few but one that always sticks to mind and brings a smile to my face whenever I think about it or tell someone about it. Was when I was 7 maybe 8 and my mother and step dad walk into my room on Christmas morning, and suddenly I’m waking up to a robotic dog barking next to my head! You best believe I woke right up from sleep and was on a high for weeks after. I had been BEGGING them to buy me a Teksta and so when I finally had one, I was so in love and obsessed with it. I never really wanted a real dog because even then I knew I wouldn’t be able to care or give it the right attention, but a robot dog? It just seemed perfect! And it was, until my younger siblings broke it (the joys of a big family!), I may end up getting myself another one if I can find this exact one again…

37.
What’s the best surprise you’ve ever given anyone?

I’m not too sure, I’d suppose that’s a question for them not me?

38.
What’s the surprise that made you cry?

I don’t think I have ever cried from a surprise…

39.
Do you like muffins?

Is the sky blue, grass green and dogs bark? Of course I like muffins!

40.
Do you cook often?

NO… though I have plans to change this along with my diet plan. I like to bake with my younger sister on the weekends, I feel like it’s a really great sister bonding hobby to have.

41.
What’s your favourite desert?

Anything with chocolate….Or a homemade apple pie!

42.
Is there a desert you don’t like?

Things that are just TOO rich in flavour. I’m not a big fan of food and part of the thing I detest about food is flavour. Ask my boyfriend, he honestly thinks I’m insane with all the bland things I enjoy – well maybe enjoy is too strong of a word – but I can stomach bland things easier than I can with flavourful and strong smelling foods/Deserts.

44.
Cake or Pie?

Both… but on certain ones because I REALLY love chocolate cake but I have also ALWAYS loved apple pie.

44.
What’s your least favourite food?

Honestly the list is too long.

45.
What’s your favourite condiment?

A year ago I would have told you salt. Salt makes everything better! However this year I have chosen to more or less completely cut it out of my diet, only indulging in having salt on something everything now and again, and would have to disagree with myself from a year ago. Some things DO taste better WITHOUT salt. Cutting out salt has been a struggle (especially for me as I’d add extra because I loved it that much) however now… I don’t really miss it. I like to as I stated previously to indulge in it now and again but I really am happy without it too.

Now, though? I’d say mushy-peas. I really love the taste on them and the texture when done right (I like my mushy peas really, really soft). Mushy peas, mash, fish and bread sauce is just a meal I could once every day, for the rest of my life.

46.
It’s 4am on a Saturday night, what would you eat?

Ummm…probably some chocolate, ice-cream, yogurt or fruit.

47.
If you could teach a college class what would it be called?

Coping with your mental health and/or mental illness (As I feel like that’s something schools should bring a lot of focus to and do an hour lesson on mental health and mental illnesses).

48.
Best animated film?

How can you even ask me that, there are far too many amazing ones out there to choose from!

49.
What has a guy (or girl) said to impress you?

He told me how much he loved my family. (Family is such a big thing for me so when my family and him got along I knew I had found someone special to share my life with).

50.
Best thing to do on a date?

Remember to both have fun. It’s a date, not an interview!

51.
Worst thing to do on a date?

Talk about another person/ talk about an ex… I’ve never had this happened to me, however it’s happened to a few friends of mine and it defiantly seemed to have hurt them that that person agreed to go on a date with them only to talk about other people or an ex they haven’t realised they aren’t over yet.

52.
What is the funniest pick up line a guy/girl could use on a guy/girl?

I’d have to say these two;
You must be Jamaican, because Jamaican me crazy.
What has 36 teeth and holds back the Incredible Hulk? My zipper. (I don’t know why but I laughed at this for ten minutes straight)

52.
Best comic book character?

I’ve always been a batman fan 😛

52.
What are three things you always keep in your purse?

I’m not sure if this means a money purse or a women’s small bag (which have been known to be called purses at times).
If it’s a money purse then….
money,
old receipts
And cards.
If the latter then it would be:
Phone.
Notebook & pen.
And a small book or my kindle.

52.
Favourite drink?

Smoothies!

52.
If you could play a historical character who would it be?

Rosalind Franklin or Angela Burdett-Coutts

52.
kittens or puppies?

Do i have to choose? Can’t I just pick both??

52.
Favourite Sushi Roll?

I’ve never tried Sushi Rolls… It’s never seem like something I would like. Though I plan on trying it at some point now that I am trying new things!

52.
What kind of lipstick do you use?

I don’t really wear lipstick, usually just a light lip tint with some lip-balm or just lip-balm.

52.
What kind of foundtion do you use?

Honestly, I try out loads of different types, because my skin is so sensitive and bad, I usually have to switch around or I’ll to:
Lasting Finish 25hrs foundation with comfort serum
Or Match Perfect foundation – both by Rimmel
Though I try not to wear foundation too often because it will play up with my skin, i’m also looking for more vegan friendly foundation/makeup that I can start using with my skin.

52.
Blow dry or Air dry?

I’ve always aired dried mine. Drying it naturally seems stop many split ends, frayed/flyaway and dry hair.
However, If I am in a rush (which really isn’t that often) I will blow dry my hair.

52.
Who is your fashion Icon?

Is it weird I’ve never had one? When I was younger I always used to want to wear my older sister’s clothes (I won’t lie, I still like nicking a few of her outfits now and again when I see her) and my mums clothes. I’ve always like the Gothic/emo style, and having a Gothic mum and an older sister (at that time) going through her emo phase. Me and my family just seem to have very similar tastes…but you’d never catch us dead wearing the same thing!

52.
Favourite Disney Character?

That’s just cruel. There are far too many good ones out there to just pick one!

52.
What are you doing tomorrow?

I’m not too sure… I guess:
– Sort my cats out
-Yoga
-Check my emails
-Social media
-Write a few blogs posts out
-Spend some time with my cats
– Start reading, Blood’s Awaken (Because my forgetful min totally forgot!)
– Go on a walk with my sisters
-Take some pictures
-Social media
– Get back to writing my novel
– Spend more time with my cats
– Play a game with my one true love/ spend some quality time together.
-Social media
-Blog writing/planning
– Then Bed
I don’t led an exciting life, but I am living a changed one :).

52.
Movie you’ve laughed the hardest through?

Any comedy film I have EVER watched, I’m easily amused I think…

52.
Movie that made you cry?

The only one that springs to mind right now are:
Marley and Me
Wall-E
The lion king

52.
If you could sing a duet with someone who would it be?

considering I can’t sing, no one. I wouldn’t want to torture their ears with their sound of my inharmonious voice!

52.
If your life were a song, what would the title be?

She learnt to be her own goddess.

52.
Favourite animal?

I really don’t have a favourite, I’ve all animals tbh, even the creepy crawly insects.

52.
Favourite Illustrator?

I can’t say I’ve ever had one….

52.
Person you want to have coffee with?

52.
What’s the country you wish to visit?

Greece

52.
Best ways to decompress?

  • Read a book.
  • Read more books.
  • write (writing is a great decompression).
  • Yoga! (Yoga is amazing for it too!).
  • Baking.
  • Taking pictures of my cats or nature/ the sky really helps me.
  • Playing with your pets/ giving them affection.
  • A bath using Lush bath bombs!

Here are my 12 nominees, I can’t wait to read your answers!

@BestieTalksblog
@Books_faith
@Jack_Deyes
@Wellbeanblog
@Autisticfitchic
@LovePopcorn6
@Thepreppingwife
@LPeat3
@Beautyofmychao1
@LoveMeTreatMe
@Laurenreads1
@JaazSaunders

A Happy Birthday Message to my love

This isn’t your typical/ usual post for me. This is message, a love poem, a love song, or whatever you want to call, for a soul so great it sweep mine off it’s feet.

Today is a special day, it’s the day my boyfriend grows a year older. Today is a day for celebrating life, more importantly celebrating such a wonderful soul. I’ll soon be joining you in the world of 22 in a month time!

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Dan at his sister’s wedding

Firstly, I’ll start this post off by saying a BIG, Happy Birthday to the love of my life, Dan.

I know you all may be wondering why I am not just wishing him a happy birthday in person, I am and will do so later. But writing a typical blog post today didn’t feel right, especially since this blog wouldn’t have even happened if it wasn’t for his help. So it only felt right, that my blog too wished him the biggest of happy birthdays!

He has helped me in more ways than I ever could explain, he has pushed me, motivated and driven me to want to be a better me, all while protecting me and caring for me when I’ve needed it. He’s be my biggest silent supporter and without his support I don’t think my blog would have ever came to be.

Meeting such a strong soul such as my Dan has entirely changed my life, I feel as though upon meeting him I had been opened up to a whole knew world. At first he was mysterious and exciting but then quickly became my safe zone, my cornerstone, my heart and home wrapped up in a human package.

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Me and my Dan a few years ago (possibly my favourite picture of us)

He’s has shown me a love so deep I could never go back to the love I once thought I knew as love. I never would have dreamt that I would find you so early on in life and although it hasn’t always been perfect, I wouldn’t want to change a moment that we have spent together. The good, the bad and the ugly, I’ll take it all as long I have this magnificent soul by my side through it all.

When you are in such a long and committed relationship we can let slip the things that made us first drawn to our partners. The little things we use to notice can sometime become things that then annoy us, the more time we spend with that special someone the more we forget that we are spending time with a special someone and we can let the small silly things come between our relationship at times.

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Me and Dan when we were 17

We can forget to capture the a moment in our memories for a later date, we forget to laugh a joke, we forget to humour our partner and we can forget to smile, laugh, play, and enjoy the company we have.

Every new year with this amazing soul is always a new adventure for me and I can’t wait to see the many more adventures the future has in store for us. I count myself lucky to have fallen in love with my best friend, I love growing with him and learning new things, everything is always excited even on the slow and boring days.

And no one has shown me the care and love that he does. So, if you ever read this post Dan, just know you have me. Heart, body and soul. And I can’t wait to share another birthday and along with many more season/holidays/special occasions with you.

I’m a writer. I’ve lived and breathed words my entire life and yet I have never come across a word or sentence that describe the love, appreciation and adoration I have for this amazing man but I’ll be happy to spend the rest of outlives making sure he knows just how deeply I love him, on the good days and bad. I wouldn’t change a moment with him.

You can find out more about our little adventures and daily life by following my Instagram – @Littletinkablee

Nicotine and Napalm – Book Review

I was sent a beautifully covered book by the lovely author Emily Priest to read and review for free. I would like to state before starting my book review, like all my reviews (books or otherwise) I give my full honest opinion and would never suggest something to my readers/viewer that I didn’t fully enjoy myself.

With that being said, free products or books will not change my opinion, good or bad.

Nicotine and Napalm by Emily Priest.

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Nicotine and Napalm by Emily Priest

About Emily Priest

Emily Priest 

Author, Poetess, journalist
Emily Priest

Emily was born in Southampton in 1997 but moved to Portsmouth in 2016 to study creative and media writing at Portsmouth University.

There she refined her writing and developed as a professional -building and extensive portfolio of creativity, journalism, radio and marketing. Emily was also awarded a ‘young journalist’ award in 2017 from unity 101 and then went on to publish her work in 2018 in several publications

Synopsis/Commentary


Emily Priest’s first compilation, Nicotine and Napalm, is a raw and unflinching exploration of love and loss. This collection of prose and poetry is one woman’s account of growing up in the modern world and her own discovery of sexuality, strength and weakness.

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by Emily Priest 
Book Review by #littletinkablee

I’ll start off by saying that this wonderful creation of compiled poetry has received a 5/5 start rating from me.

When I had received Emily’s book I was instantly in love with the cover. If you have read my ‘Bookish Confessions’ by the amazing @BethTabler you’ll know that I have been guilty of “judging a book by it’s cover.” I can’t help but appreciate and be drawn to an attractive looking book, I’m only human after all!

Diving into Emily’s series of poems I was instantly captivated by the by the beautifully placed words and although tragic and full of heartache there was a beauty in these words that will stick with me for the rest of my life.

This is the kind of book I would want my sisters and friends to read, something I believe should be placed into high school libraries for young girls to get their hands on and read. There are so many messages and hidden meanings in this amazingly put together poetry book that young girls and women can relate to, messages that young girls need to hear, need to know while learning to grow and love.

Book review by #littletinkablee

Poetry Book by Emily Priest

Emily has shown that she is nothing but audacious when it comes to her writing, showing and expression in such depth emotion of the love gained and loss through her journey of sexuality and self discovery.

And, she has inspired me to get back into writing my own poetry!

If you love poetry, love, heartbreak, self-discovery, passion, raw emotions… then this is something for you, this is one book you do not want to miss out on reading and enjoying. I’m so honoured to have read and experienced Emily’s emotions through her poetry and I have to admit there were a few line, especially towards the end that had the taps in my eyes running on full.

You can purchase or download your copy of Nicotine and Napalm right here! And don’t for get to check out Emily’s social medias!

Overall this beautifully written poetry book is something I would recommend to everyone of my female friends, family, blogging fam and strangers!

I hope this has inspired you to check out her book and read it for yourself! If there was one book, one piece of poetry that I had to recommend to the world, it would be this poetry book without hesitation.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read and as always I appreciate any comments or shares that I receive on all my posts and I wish you all a lovely week!

Depression and suicidal thoughts

Today’s post is a little more sensitive than most of my post to do with mental health. I’ve shared a little on battle with server anxiety with my two post called: ‘Stop writing anxiety off as something minor‘ and ‘Coping with anxiety outside’ – a post where others who are fighting their own anxiety battle shared their tips and tricks on coping with their anxiety outside. And I even shared a post talking a little about my struggles with my eating disorder.

But today we won’t be talking about anxiety or about eating disorders. Today I wanted to approach the topic of Depression and Suicidal thoughts. This is something that I’ve kept to myself a lot, a subject even I’m unwilling to open up about around my family (who have been my biggest supporters) and at times a subject I won’t even acknowledge to myself.

What is Depression?


Depression is a on overly strong feeling of hopelessness, incredibly low moods and self-worth,disturbed sleep/ appetite, and a loss of interest for all things you once loved. It is one of the most common mental health problem that us as humans face on a regular basis and yet it is still one of the most undermined mental health problem out there.

Depression is a mental health illness that affects a lot of children, young adults and people in their early 30s – early 50s.

  • 20% of adolescents may experience a mental health (more commonly depression or anxiety) problem in any given year.
  • 50% of mental health problems are established by age 14 and 75% by age 24. (That’s a lot of young people!)

Depression has many different symptoms that vary among different people, but generally encompass a feeling of unbearable sadness and hopelessness. The symptoms that can be brought on by depression can go from mild to moderate to severe and in which case if you are experiencing such overwhelming feelings and thoughts everyday (or almost every day) for more than two weeks, you should seek help from your GP.

Here are some (but not nearly all) symptoms of Depression:

  • Tiredness and loss of energy
  • Overwhelming sadness that doesn’t go away
  • Loss of self-confidence and self-esteem
  • Incredible difficulty in concentrating
  • Not being able to enjoy the things you once found interesting or pleasurable
  • Feeling anxious all the time
  • Avoiding other people, even your close friends
  • A suffocating feeling of helplessness and hopelessness
  • Sleeping problems – You sleep to much, can’t sleep at all, or waking up much earlier than is usual for you.
  • Strong feelings of guilt and/or worthlessness
  • Finding it hard to function at work/collage/school
  • Change in your behaviour
  • A loss of appetite
  • A loss in sex drive and/or sexual problems
  • Physical aches and pains (the mind can truly be a powerful thing)
  • Thinking about suicide and death
  • Self-harming

What are suicidal thoughts?


Suicidal thoughts is an abstract way of thinking about ending your life or believing that you and everyone around you would be better off without in the world with them.

In 2013 (6 years ago) there were 6,233 suicide recorded in the Uk for people 15 and older. Of these, 78% were male and 22% were female.


https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/

Suicide and Self-harm are not mental health problems themselves, but they are linked with mental health distress.

There are certain factors that can make individuals more vulnerable to risk of suicide, such as:

  • Drug and Alcohol misuse
  • History of trauma and/or abuse
  • Unemployment
  • Social isolation
  • Poverty
  • Poor social conditions
  • Imprisonment
  • Violence
  • Family break down

Suicide is widely often avoided by many people around the world. With such a terrible stigma surrounding it and not enough people understanding it, a lot of people keep these thoughts to themselves out of shame or fear of getting an angry response.

In England, more than 4,00 suicides (among people aged 15 and over) were registered in 2013. Of this figure, two thirds were male and one third were female.

Suicide is the largest cause of death for men aged 20-49 years in England and Wales. In 2012, more than three quarters of deaths by suicide were by men.

As the previous figures indicate, the rates of suicide have been lower for women than for men, and this has remained consistent over time. Between 2981 and 2007, suicide rates in the UK fell significantly for both sexes. However, since 2007, the suicide rate for women stayed constant while the rate for men has increased significantly.

(Keep in mind these are statistics from over 6 years ago and since 2014-2015 the rise in suicide has jumped just as significantly as it has lowered. Suicide can be just as unpredictable as the people suffering.


https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/ < (Click to found out more on suicide and mental health)

One of the most discriminatory stereotypes that persists is the incorrect association between mental health problems and violent behaviour. I fear the media may play a big role in portraying that people with mental health problems are violent.

A 2011 study on discrimination in England reported that 14% of national newspaper articles addressing mental health issues referred to those with mental health problems as being a danger to others. (utterly ridiculous if you ask me).

  • Studies have shown that the estimated risk of violence by people with mental health problems ranges from 3% to 5%
  • People with mental health problems are more likely to be victims of violence compared to those without mental health problems.

In a 2013 British survey among persons with severe mental health problems, it was found that;

– 45% had been victims of crime in the previous year
– 1 in 5 had experienced a violent assault
– people with mental health problems were 3 times more likely to be a victim of assault and any crime than those without
– women with severe mental health problems were 10 times more likely to experience assault than those without
– people with mental health problems were more likely to report that the police had been unfair to them compared to the general population.

My (shortened) story with Depression and Suicidal thoughts

My story with depression starts at a really young age (though not as young as kids today experience depression). I was a really naive child, I believed in all the good things in the world, I never really paid any attention to the bad. Everything was just a new and exciting adventure for me.

I lost that feeling of life being once big fun adventure when I was 6 maybe 7 years old. It was a tough time for me and my family, things had started to become unhinged and more uncertain for me. My little sister was going through the same thing and so I had to throw on my big sister shoes and comfort her. The stress and the new feeling of responsibility I had then I had for my sister started to weigh in on me. But I didn’t realise it for what it was at the time.

And when you are so young and when you were as naive as I was it was just so easy to push away the bad things and pretended they never existed. We moved house a lot more around that time, which meant that me and my sister moved schools a lot. Being so close in age and looking like twins at the time me and my sister was as close as actual identical twins, we were always treated us such until we both hit certain ages. For a long time it was me and my little sister against the big bad, scary world.

Moving house became a new adventure to us, learning a new area and being in a new school, it was just all part of the fun. Part of our adventure.

But then it wasn’t long before they stopped becoming adventures and started becoming more like…Missions. Missions I didn’t want to be a apart of anymore. The moving around, making new friends, fighting off new bullies, defending my sister from new people, learning a new area and leaving all behind all over again. It started to drag on my soul a little.

Then I became a teenager and a whole set of new problems and hormones and other person problems started flying my way. And there were so many times I just want all the noise, all the images of different faces and places to stop. So many times I’ve sat there and I’ve thought of all the ways I could make it stop. But couldn’t because I has to look after my mum and my little sister, and then my other little sisters and little brother.

Taking on that role gave me a new meaning to life, I had a mission, a mission I’d never stop at doing. Protecting and looking out for the ones I love. It’s helped pull me out of some really dark times, they have helped pull me out of some really dark times and I love them all the more for it.

But sometimes even the love off of those you love can’t keep the demons at bay. Sometimes the demons are just too strong and take on different forms. There have been a few small and very minor incidents where my depression has taken a hold over my heart, body and soul so much that I’ve self-harmed and I’ve had those thoughts about picking up those pills and making sure I took enough to never come back. I’ve thought about ways that be fast and sufficient knowing how much of a coward I am I wouldn’t be able to take the pain and disappointment of finding out I failed at taking my own life. At the disappointment and even more of a burden I’m then going to be on the people I love.

There are a lot of people out there who don’t understand how a person can get to the point of taking ones life and may think they are even selfish or cowards, but until you are in their shoes, have felt the emotions coursing through their body, the thoughts firing through their heads or have nothing of your own to live for… You don’t get the right to label them that.

Depression is a common mental health problem that affects everyone differently at different levels. You are never going to fully understand what a person is going through, but there are a lot of people who can understand some of what you are going through and sometimes that’ll all we need, is confirmation that we aren’t alone in this, that these thoughts are normal and they can eventually be fought off.

I truly I hope that this post can inspire you to reach out for help or talk a little more openly about your depression or suicidal thoughts. From someone who has had more than her fair share of them you aren’t alone in this. And I implore anyone who needs a listening ear to reach out to me (My email: littletinkable@gmail.com) and I will help in any way I can. If you need someone to understand, some advice or just a non judgemental open ear (I know trust doesn’t come easy) but you can trust that that is what you’ll receive from our conversations. I am not a qualified therapist (though I hope once I beat my anxiety & other issues I can get back to my psychology studies and go back to working towards becoming a therapist) I’m happy and always willing to offer what help/advice I can.

If you don’t feel comfortable emailing me then feel free to reach out to me through my other media plat forms:

Twitter – @Tinkableeblog

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Where’s Timmy?

Today’s post was written by Danielle Calloway a name you may recognise her name from her previous guest post on my blog called: The Unsung Furry Hero

(This isn’t “Timmy”. This is a random picture of a local Tomcat that comes by).

Somehow my patio ended up being a safe-house for single mommy cats with their young.  Stray cats must’ve had a bulletin board with postings where the safe houses were.  Some came while pregnant, I’d feed and water them, then when they had their kittens, they’d take them somewhere else. 

I do feel the need to put a disclaimer here: I am not a cat person.  However, the cats seemed to know I couldn’t refuse an animal in need, and they thoroughly took advantage of the situation.

Once a mama cat came with her two, very young, kittens and set up home in a sheltered corner of my patio.  I took out the bowls, set them in the shade, and told her, “You are welcome to stay until your young ones are ready to be on their own.”

Every morning I drank my coffee on the patio and Mama Cat proudly showed off her kittens, although she wouldn’t let me touch or play with them.  Every time they tried, she’d swat them and glare at me. 

One day I heard a knock on my screen door.  Going to the door, I looked out and saw Mama Cat staring up at me.  She quickly ran away.  Shrugging my shoulders, I went back to the kitchen.  Mama Cat knocked again.  As soon as I walked up to the door, she ran away.

“Really, now,” I said, “Ditch doorbell is not a nice game to play.  What do you want? You have food and water and I’m not giving you more milk until later.”

She ran up to the door, swatted it, and ran off again.

“What is it Lassie?  Did Timmy fall into the well?  Or maybe into the pond?” I sarcastically asked.  “Where’s Timmy?”

Smirking at the idea that Mama Cat miraculously turned into Lassie, I followed her to the corner of my patio, where there was a narrow opening between the two houses.  She stared into the dark crevice.

I bent down and looked where she was staring and saw the tip of a tiny tail.

Astounded, I said, “Wow, you really did show me where Timmy is.”

Since it was dark in there, I needed a flashlight to access the situation.  When I got up to walk back into the house, Mama Cat grabbed onto my leg and wouldn’t let it go.  “I’ll be right back, I don’t have cat eyes like yours, I need help.”

She waited at the screen door for me to return and led me back to the kitten, who I will forever refer to as Timmy.

Shedding light on the situation, I saw poor Timmy in a precarious situation.  Stuck between two walls, he couldn’t turn around.  He couldn’t go forward on the ledge unless he wanted to fall one story down and be forever stuck between the two houses. 

Talking softly, I slowly reached in and Timmy, frightened, lunged forward and almost fell headfirst to his death.  Backing my hand out, I said to Mama Cat.  “We have three options, I pull him out by his tail, I try to get him out and he falls to his death, or we leave him there until he figures out how to back out all by himself.”

Mama Cat didn’t want him falling and she, like me, didn’t have much confidence that Timmy would figure out reverse any time soon.  And, being a mama, she wanted him out NOW. 

I, again, put my hand in and grabbed his tail.  With one sharp yank, and a yowl from Timmy, I pulled him to safety.

Timmy arched his back and spat at me. 

Mama Cat smacked him across the face, grabbed him by the back of the neck, and trotted off to their corner.

Timmy never wanted to play with me after that, forever resentful that I pulled his tail.  He never did thank me, either, for having saved his life.

In time they all left my patio and new cats moved in.  Timmy is the only one I ever named.

If you have a pet story you’d love to share (it can be anything!) Then please email me your story at: littletinkable@gmail.com

Don’t forget to add a short Bio and any picture’s you’d like added to your post and you could be featured on my blog Monday or Friday!

Happy, Monday, I hope you all have a wonderful week!

Name calling never bothered me anyway

This experience is told and was lived my Lauren. A bibliophile and owner of a book blog called ‘Readers Enjoy Authors Dreams‘. (click the name to be directed to her amazing blog!)

I used to get bullied because of the way that I looked, in the bullies opinion I had a big forehead and used to get called names like ‘five head’, ‘alien’ and ‘boom head’ the name calling was occasionally accompanied by a slap on the forehead.

This first started in year three I went to a private school and I used to cross paths with some of the older boys.

They used to call me ‘five head’ at the time I didn’t know what was going on so I shrugged it off and thought nothing of it.

My parents moved so I moved to a normal secondary school where the bullying became worse every day walking around from year seven to eleven I would get ‘forehead’, ‘boom head’ and ‘five head’ shouted at me on a daily basis even if I wasn’t in school.

I will admit at the beginning of year nine it made me feel so ugly and so annoyed that I was different from everybody else because of the way I looked slightly different.

I remember one day in year eleven I was sat talking to a friend about being bullied and I realised that I had been called the same names over and over again most of my academic life and

I laughed at the fact that they couldn’t think of anything new to say.

Name calling is something I’ve never understood. What exactly are you getting out of it? Other than letting us know how small your vocabulary is… It’s great to know that those name calling school kids never got you down for long, its amazing that you were able to let those comments bounce off you like they are nothing, because that’s what they are nothing. Words made to make you feel bad because they feel bad or unhappy with themselves.

Thank you so much for sharing your story with us Lauren and if anyone would like to read it in full CLICK HERE to be directed the full post on Lauren’s blog.

And if you would like to take part and share your experience and show others that bullies never win in life (whether that’s cyber bullies or bullies in real life) then please feel free to email me at: Littletinkable@gmail.com and don’t forget to add a short Bio, any pictures and social links you’d like me to add. Or you can do this completely anonymous.